CONTENTS

1. praise for good sex
2. acknowledgments
3. one: the adventure begins
   1. The Long and Winding Road to Good Sex
   2. Waking Up
   3. Mindful Sex
4. two: mindfulness manual: obstacles, faqs, and tips
   1. Frequent Obstacles to Starting a Meditation Practice
   2. Meditation FAQs
   3. Feeling Overwhelmed
   4. Sleepiness
   5. The Quiet Mind Battle
   6. Meditation Prep Checklist
5. three: mindfulness manual: the practices
   1. Basic Breath Awareness
   2. Rest and Relax
   3. Pleasure Boost
   4. Positivity Boost
   5. Basic Body Awareness
   6. Focus on Emotions
   7. Focus on Mind
   8. Focus on Self
   9. Meditation in Action
6. four: feelin’ it
   1. The Impermanent Body
   2. Learning New Tricks
   3. Loving the Skin You’re In
   4. A Whole New World
   5. Putting Your Practice into Action
   6. This and This
7. five: open-eyed love
   1. The Body Knows
   2. Let’s Talk about Sex, Baby
   3. What Do You Want?
   4. Collaboration Is Sexy
   5. Right Speech
   6. If You Don’t Have Anything Nice to Say
   7. Eyes Wide Open
   8. Eye to Eye Meditation
   9. Sex without Separation
8. six: crazy mindful love
   1. Love Drugs
   2. Getting Sober
   3. Kicking the Habit
   4. Working through Challenges
   5. The Magnifying Glass and the Mirror
   6. What Is My Part?
   7. Loving Kindness
   8. Water Meets Its Own Level
   9. The Just Be Nice Campaign
   10. Impermanent Conflict
   11. No Problems, Only Solutions
   12. When It Doesn’t Work Out
   13. I Will Survive
   14. Open Heart
   15. Relationship as a Monastery
9. seven: the big O
   1. Orgasmic Shame
   2. Orgasm Anxiety Be Gone
   3. A New Story
   4. Putting It into Practice
   5. Orgasm Attachment
   6. Getting Off without Getting Off
   7. It’s the Journey, Not the Destination
   8. Be Here Now
   9. Orgasm and Concentration
10. eight: press play
    1. Ethical Porn
    2. Porn and Shame
    3. Kids and Porn
    4. Body Image
    5. Your Relationship on Porn
    6. Porn for Intimacy
    7. Sex Ed
    8. Spiritual People Don’t Do That!
11. nine: good sex is safe sex
    1. Getting Tested
    2. Knocked Up
    3. Abortion and Healing
    4. Exploring Past Abortions for Women
    5. Consent
    6. I Didn’t Say Yes
    7. Safe Sex Is Self-Love
12. ten: relax, get to it
    1. Learning to Relax
    2. Relaxed Sex
    3. Relaxation Fears
    4. Just Breathe
    5. Learning to Breathe
    6. Tantric Lovin’
    7. Relaxing into Pain
    8. Grasping and Acceptance
13. eleven: can’t get no satisfaction
    1. Not Getting Lucky
    2. Deconstructing Desire
    3. Not in the Mood
    4. The Sex Drive Boost Tool Kit
    5. A Little More Talk, A Little Less Action
    6. Awakened Role-Playing
    7. A Pitch for Celibacy
14. twelve: different strokes
    1. Fantasy Land
    2. Judgment
    3. The Threesome
    4. Tie Me Up, Tie Me Down!
15. thirteen: the deep end
    1. Getting the Commitment You Deserve
    2. More Than Two
    3. The Numbers
    4. All Kinds of Open
    5. The Green-Eyed Monster
16. fourteen: the sexual phoenix
    1. Over-Evolved Fear
    2. Trauma in Action
    3. You Are Not Your Trauma
    4. Sexual Trauma
    5. The Little Girl under the Bed
    6. The Road to Recovery
    7. Fear of Awakening
    8. Out of the Flames
17. fifteen: swim until you can’t see shore
    1. Strong Medicine
    2. To Engage or Not to Engage
    3. The Great Bypass
    4. The Integrated Life
    5. Translation vs. Transformation
    6. The Superiority Complex
    7. Chasing the High
    8. Resistance Is Futile
    9. Kill the Buddha
    10. The Never-Ending Story
18. sources
19. notes
20. resources
21. about the author

Guide

1. Cover
2. Title Page
3. Front Matter
4. Dedication
5. one: the adventure begins
6. Start Reading