Notes

1. Kristen Bialik, “Americans Unhappy with Family, Social or Financial Life Are More Likely to Say They Feel Lonely,” Pew Research Center, December 3, 2018, pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2018/12/03/americans-unhappy-with-family-social-or-financial-life-are-more-likely-to-say-they-feel-lonely.

2. Juliana Menasce Horowitz and Nikki Graf, “Most U.S. Teens See Anxiety and Depression as a Major Problem Among Their Peers,” Pew Research Center Social and Demographic Trends (February 2019), pewsocialtrends.org/2019/02/20/most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers.

3. Kelsey Crowe, PhD, and Emily McDowell, There Is No Good Card for This: What to Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love (San Francisco: HarperOne/HarperCollins, 2017).

4. Louis Menand, “What Personality Tests Really Deliver,” The New Yorker, September 3, 2018, newyorker.com/magazine/2018/09/10/what-personality-tests-really-deliver.

5. Olivia B. Waxman, “Where Do Zodiac Signs Come From? Here’s the True History Behind Your Horoscope,” Time, June 21, 2018, time.com/5315377/are-zodiac-signs-real-astrology-history.

6. David Walton, Emotional Intelligence: A Practical Guide, London, UK: Icon Books, 2012.

7. “Needs Inventory,” The Center for Nonviolent Communication, 2005, cnvc.org/training/resource/needs-inventory.

8. Andrea Bonior, PhD, “10 Important Boundaries Everyone Should Set in 2019,”BuzzFeed, January 2, 2019, buzzfeed.com/andreabonior/a-definitive-guide-to-setting-boundaries.

9. Cal Newport, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World (New York: Portfolio, 2019).

10. Teddy Wayne, “Are My Friends Really My Friends,” The New York Times, May 12, 2018, nytimes.com/2018/05/12/style/who-are-my-real-friends.html.

11. Andrea Bonior, The Friendship Fix: The Complete Guide to Choosing, Losing, and Keeping Up with Your Friends (New York: Thomas Dunne Books, 2011).

12. Rasmus Hougaard and Jacqueline Carter, The Mind of the Leader: How to Lead Yourself, Your People, and Your Organization for Extraordinary Results (Boston: Harvard Business Review Press, 2018).

13. Anna Borges, “Everything You Could Possibly Want to Know About Therapy,” BuzzFeed, October 23, 2018, buzzfeed.com/annaborges/how-to-start-therapy.

14. Rachel W. Miller, “How Often You Really Need to Shower (According to Science),” BuzzFeed, January 12, 2015, buzzfeed.com/rachelwmiller/how-often-you-really-need-to-shower.

15. Rachel W. Miller and Anna Borges, “Here’s How to Use a Bullet Journal for Better Mental Health,” BuzzFeed, August 19, 2016, buzzfeed.com/rachelwmiller/mental-health-bullet-journal.

16. Rachel W. Miller, “10 Life-Changing Things to Try In 2016,” BuzzFeed, January 4, 2016; and Rachel W. Miller, “15 Tips From Marie Kondo That Have Genuinely Changed My Life,” BuzzFeed, January 14, 2019.

17. “Why We Need to Create a Home,” The School of Life, theschooloflife.com/thebookoflife/why-we-need-to-create-a-home.

18. Florence Williams, The Nature Fix: Why Nature Makes Us Happier, Healthier, and More Creative (New York: Norton, 2017).

19. Online Etymology Dictionary, “habit,” etymonline.com/word/habit.

20. Tonya Dalton, The Joy of Missing Out: Live More by Doing Less (Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2019). Copyright Kotori Designs, LLC.

21. Meg Keene, A Practical Wedding (Boston: Da Capo Lifelong Books, 2012).

22. Shasta Nelson, Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for lifelong Health and Happiness (Berkeley, CA: Seal Press, 2016).

23. Rachel W. Miller, “Not Great, Bob! The Case for Actually Being Honest When People Ask How You Are,” SELF, June 19, 2019, self.com/story/not-great-bob.

24. Bonior, The Friendship Fix, op. cit.

25. Wayne, “Are My Friends Really My Friends,” op. cit.

26. Diane Weston, Small Talk: How to Start a Conversation, Truly Connect with Others and Make a Killer First Impression (Hamburg, Germany: Monkey Publishing, 2019).

27. “How to Cope with Snobbery,” The School of Life, theschooloflife.com/thebookoflife/how-to-cope-with-snobbery.

28. Jeffrey A. Hall, “How Many Hours Does It Take to Make a Friend?” Journal of Social and Personal Relationships 36, no. 4 (2019): doi: 10.1177/0265407518761225.

29. Allie Volpe, “Why You Need a Network of Low-Stakes, Casual Friendships,” The New York Times, May 6, 2019, nytimes.com/2019/05/06/smarter-living/why-you-need-a-network-of-low-stakes-casual-friendships.html.

30. Ibid.

31. Nelson, Frientimacy, op. cit.

32. Bonior, The Friendship Fix, op. cit.

33. Gyan Yankovich, “11 Tiny Ways to Keep Your Long-Distance Friendship Strong as Ever,” BuzzFeed, March 7, 2018, buzzfeed.com/gyanyankovich/long-distance-friendship-tips-advice.

34. Nelson, Frientimacy, op. cit.

35. Susan David, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life (New York: Avery/Penguin Random House, 2016).

36. Joshua Foer, “Feats of Memory Anyone Can Do,” TED, February 2012, ted.com/talks/joshua_foer_feats_of_memory_anyone_can_do/transcript.

37. Celeste Headlee, We Need to Talk: How to Have Conversations that Matter (New York: Harper Wave/HarperCollins, 2017).

38. Crowe and McDowell, There Is No Good Card for This, op. cit.

39. Susan Silk and Barry Goldman, “How Not to Say the Wrong Thing,” Los Angeles Times, April 7, 2013, latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-xpm-2013-apr-07-la-oe-0407-silk-ring-theory-20130407-story.html.

40. Crowe and McDowell, There Is No Good Card for This, op. cit.

41. Andrea Bonior, The Friendship Fix, op. cit.

42. Deirdre Sullivan, “Always Go to the Funeral,” All Things Considered, NPR, April 8, 2005, npr.org/2005/08/08/4785079/always-go-to-the-funeral.

43. Harriet Lerner, Why Won’t You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts (New York: Gallery Books/Simon & Schuster, 2017).

44. Ibid.