Contents

PROLOGUE

What Just Happened to Me?

How Fast Does Chemistry Happen?

Does Timing Count?

What’s Happening to My Brain?

Who Discovered Why We Feel Chemistry?

But I Thought Chemistry Is Either There . . . Or It Isn’t

Chemistry Makes the World Go ‘Round

Why Did It Happen?

Are You the Master or the Slave of Love?

Why Are We So Naive About Love?

Skull and Crossbones

Now the Good News

A Few Important Housekeeping Notes (Don’t Skip These!)

CHAPTER 1

LOVE IN LIMBIC LAND

Where Love Lives

Your Amygdala Nickname: Ms. Emotions

Your Hippocampus Nickname: Mr. Memory

Your Hypothalamus Nickname: Mr. Action

Your Caudate Nucleus and Environs Nickname: Pleasure Island

Your Prefrontal Cortex Nickname: The Professor

The Six Sexy Chemicals of Love

Dopamine

Serotonin

Testosterone

Estrogen

Oxytocin

Vasopressin

CHAPTER 2

CHEMISTRY AT FIRST SIGHT

“All Men Are Animals”

“All Women Are Gold Diggers”

Huntresses, Cut the Animals Some Slack

Sex Scrambles His Brain

Blame Mom and Co.

Hunters, Cut the Gold Diggers Some Slack

What Sparks a Hunter’s Chemistry—and Why

Babies “R” Us

Let’s Break It Down to Body Parts. Guys Do.

What Sparks a Huntress’s Chemistry—and Why

Planet Earth’s Colossal Unisex Chemistry Sparker

Cliff Notes

CHAPTER 3

HOW TO SPARK CHEMISTRY TO ATTRACT

Forget the Golden Rule When Trying to Spark Chemistry

Fight, Flight, or Chemistry at First Sight?

Get Wise to the Geisha in Every Woman

Huntresses, Fight Your Instincts

Eye Contact is Not Unisex

Hunters’ Fishing Trip

Your Actions Speak Louder Than Looks

Smiling Is Not Just Smiling

Does She Really Care What I Wear?

Why Coordination Counts

Huntresses’ Fishing Trip

What Went Wrong?

How the “Beauty Challenged” Can Ace the “Tens”

A Hunter’s Brain Is Like a Light Switch with a Delayed Connection

Hunting Gear for Trapping First-Class Quarry

Forget Fashion, Think Flirtation

Sizzling Sparkers for Serious Huntresses

One Huntress’s Triple-X Tip

Erotic Truth Is Stranger than Fiction

CHAPTER 4

HOW TO SPARK CYBER CHEMISTRY

The Successful Online Hunter

Hunters’ Clothes

Hunters’ Background

The Successful Online Huntress

Huntresses’ Clothes

Huntresses’ Background

Number of Photos and Poses

A Devious Digital Tip for Both Sexes

Your Online Name

Your First Message

Who Is Your Quarry Really Interested In?

Talk About What You Read Between the Lines

A Beautiful Tip from an Unsightly Man

CHAPTER 5

HOW TO SPARK CHEMISTRY IN YOUR FIRST CONVERSATION

Chemistry Sparking “Pickup Lines.” (Hunters, Bite Your Tongue!)

What Every Woman Needs to Know—But Few Do

Guys Just Don’t Get It!

The Case for Female Proceptivity

Huntresses’ Pickup Lines (Try a Few—He’ll Love It!)

But Won’t He Think I’m Being Aggressive?

The Physical Side of “Hello”

Spark Your Quarry During the First Conversation

The Rapid Transit System Called the Female Brain

She Reads Between the Lines—So Talk Between the Lines

A Pivotal Question

Today the Who-Impresses-Whom Rules Are Reversed

Huntress, Are You One in a Million, or One Among a Million?

Begin the Bait and Switch

Double Name Talk

So Far, So Good

CHAPTER 6

HOW TO SPARK CHEMISTRY ON DATES

Hunters, “Sell” Her on the Date Like a Pro

Crack the Old Hard-to-Get Chestnut

How to Get the Date without Asking

The Most Chemistry-Sparking First Date

The First Half of the Date

The Second Half of the Date

Eating Sparkers

Play Games with Your Quarry

Chemistry-Sparking Conversation on Every Date

He Says/She Says, What?

Hunters, Follow Your Quarry’s Rhythm

Huntresses, Don’t Fill in the Blanks

Give a “You Fit My LoveMap” Feeling

So . . . How Should I Listen?

I Want a Man Who Makes Me Laugh

What Makes Huntresses Laugh

What Makes Hunters Laugh

CHAPTER 7

HOW TO SPARK CHEMISTRY FOR SEX

Huntresses, How Soon Should You Have Sex?

Why Sex Blows Your Mind

Huntresses, Sex Has an Even Bigger Effect on You!

Hunters, Hints for You on First-Date Sex

Foreplay Begins Way Long Before the Bedroom

Set the Stage for Sex

When It’s Time to Get Naked

Oral Sex (It’s Not What You’re Thinking)

The Educational Value of Daytime Soaps

“Oh, Great, How Do I Find Out What She Really Wants?”

Why She Needs All That Stuff First

Squares versus Swirls

Women Don’t Come with Pull-Down Menus and Online Help

Who Stole the G-Spot?

Huntresses Are Naturals

Go Where Women Aren’t Allowed

Better Yet, Get It Straight from the Horse’s Mouth

Why Won’t He Cuddle After Sex?

Do You Decide Who Turns You On—or Does Mother Nature?

If the First Kiss Stinks, Forget About It

Huntresses on the Pill, Read This Carefully

CHAPTER 8

HOW TO SPARK CHEMISTRY FOR A RELATIONSHIP

Mars and Venus Told You the What, Now the Why

The Ball of Yarn vs. the Stack of Boxes

His Box Brain

Her Yarn-Ball Brain

P.S. for Huntresses

What Are You Thinking About?

How Do You Feel About That?

Why He’s Tongue-Tied

Learn a Very Different Body Language

Shall We Talk It Out, or Slug It Out?

CHAPTER 9

HOW TO SPARK CHEMISTRY FOR FALLING IN LOVE

Is This Quarry a Keeper?

Why Is He Afraid to Commit?

I See Life That Way Too!

How Do You Define “Togetherness”?

“In Sickness and in Health”

The Magnificent Twenty-First-Century Mantra—Personal Growth

“Vet” Your Quarry

May I Have a Word with Young Lovers?

Don’t Marry Until You’re Myelinated (Parents, Don’t Miss This!)

Shall We Make a Federal Case Out of It?

CHAPTER 10

HOW TO SPARK CHEMISTRY FOR A LIFETIME OF LOVE

Making Beautiful Beginnings Last Forever

The Two-Year Itch

A Little Mouse in the Meadow Holds a Secret of Togetherness

How to Spark Long-Lasting Chemistry Anywhere, Anytime

Time Out, Sports Fans

What If I’m Ticked and Don’t Feel Like Touching Right Now?

Couples Who Play Together Stay Together

Laughing Is Just Another Way to Say “I Love You”

What About Long-Term Sizzling Sex?

Here’s the Good News—No, the Great News!

Why “Quickies” Count

Turnabout Is Fair Foreplay

Everyone Has Something They Need to Hear

Hunters, Why Her Feeling Loved Creates Lasting Chemistry

Huntresses, Why His Feeling Needed Creates Lasting Chemistry

“To What Do You Credit Your Lifelong Love?”

What to Expect When You’re Expecting Lasting Love

 

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