INDEX

A

acceptance

      and mindfulness, 190

      of problems, 20

      of your baggage, 286–289

accomplishment, from full schedule, 123

acquaintances, saying “no” to, 106–108

actions, in building habits, 284–285

Adele, 240

Adult Children of Alcoholics, 299

affirmations, 220–221

Airbnb, 245

Airbnb Experiences, 300

Al-Anon, 299

alarm clocks, 164, 262

Albright, Madeleine, 60

Alcoholics Anonymous, 299

Amazon, 204

ambition, meditation effects on, 206

Anderson, Tracy, 133

Angelou, Maya, 248

anger

      characteristics of, 187

      and decision making, 184

Aniston, Jennifer, 240

ANP (atrial natriuretic peptide), 189

antidepressants, 273

anxiety

      defined, 18–19

      as sign of needing mental health day, 250–251

Anxiety and Depression Association of America, 296

apologizing, 114

appreciation, 41

apps

      managing, 157–160

      meditation, 207–208

      mental health, 295–296

ashtanga yoga, 259

atrial natriuretic peptide (ANP), 189

attachment theory, 238

attention, 129

      during meditation, 208, 210

      and mindfulness, 180

      positive aspects of problems with, 22

      and procrastination, 135

awareness

      mindfulness as, 175

      somatic, 254

ayurveda, 285

B

babies (having a baby), 85–86

Baby (character), 89, 114

bad, being, 86

baggage, acceptance of, 286–289

balance, 75–87

      and allocation of attention, 129

      changes in, 84–86

      deciding on your future, 84–86

      discovering your current, 79–84

      finding vs. creating, 4

      finding your own, 76–77

      pie chart for, 77–79

      as skill, 291–292

Banks, Tyra, 166

baths, 266

“Because I’m a Woman” ad campaign, 58

Beck, Martha, 236

Becoming (Obama), 65

becomingsuperwomanbook.com, 301

behavior

      connection of beliefs and thoughts with, 216–218

being the best, and success, 142

beliefs, identifying, 215–218

Bell, Kristen, 269

Bendet, Stacey, 259

Benjamin Button (character), 44

Berry, Halle, 268

Beyoncé, 65, 177–178

BFF method, 184

bias

      confirmation, 195

      negativity, 188

Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, 121

birds, 247

Bloomberg, 144, 146

blue light, and sleep, 161

body clock (internal clock), 119–122

Boss Bitch (Lapin), 137, 237

boundaries, 7, 89–115

      defining personal, 90–93

      for family, 240

      importance of setting, 95–99

      maintaining, 119

      professional, 93–95

      saying “no,” 103–114

      setting and maintaining, 100–103

Brady, Tom, 21

brain

      and dopamine, 147–150

      technology and changes in, 150–152

brainstorming, reverse, 200–201

breakdown

      experienced by author, 3–4, 9–13

      learning from, 27

      making up for deficit in Emotional Wellness after, 84–85

      schedule before, 122–123

break time, scheduling, 130–132

Brontë, Emily, 113

Brown, Brené, 288

Brown, Helen Gurley, 58

brushing teeth, meditation during, 209

Brzezinski, Mika, 68–69

Buffett, Warren, 254–255

Bumble, 120

burnout

      defined, 18

      experienced by famous women, 64–65

      experienced by women, 4–5, 17

      “joy bucket” to curb, 121

      leading to other problems, 17–21

      resentment as cause of, 132

busyness

      as path to success, 123–124

      and prioritizing tasks, 134–135

      productivity vs., 117–118

C

cadence (internal rhythm)

      finding your, 130–132

      and mental health days, 127

caffeine, 251

calculators, 165

calendar invitations, accepting, 130–131

Calm (app), 208, 295–296

Candy Crush (app), 158

career

      budgeting time and energy for, 76–80

      in identity, 83

      mindfulness principles in, 181

      setting goals for, 67–68

Carrey, Jim, 286

catalysts, 279

catastrophizing, 188–194, 196–197

categories, balance pie chart, 82, 84

catharsis, 279

Catskill Mountains, 124–127

chaos, scheduling and, 141

choreography, for life routines, 259–260

“chunking,” of information, 252–253

Churchill, Winston, 268

Cisco, 204

Clash of Clans, 158

classes, taking, 245–246

cleaning, in night routines, 266

Cleveland Clinic, 267

clinical disorders, depression and anxiety as, 19

Clinton, Hillary, 5

close friends, 240–241

clubs, joining, 246

Coca-Cola, 254

codependency, 239

cognitive function, 205

Coldplay, 29

Columbia University, 218

Comedy Improvisational Manual, 72

commitment, to oneself, 30–32

communication, mindfulness in, 183–184

communication apps, 120

community, creating, 226–227

comparisons, making fair, 60

confidence, 217–218

confirmation bias, 195

Congleton, Ben, 256

consistency

      as good quality, 227

      and productivity, 139–141

constant availability, 156–157

contrast, of pain, 279

control

      and manifestation, 220

      over activity of mind, 203–204

conversation, pauses in, 183

Copeland, Misty, 210

core beliefs, changing, 217

cortisol, 189

Cosmopolitan magazine, 58

coursehorse.com, 245, 299–300

Cowell, Simon, 119

Cox, Laverne, 258–259

creativity, 228

credit, claiming, 105–106

crises, 277–289

      and accepting your baggage, 286–289

      cultivating joy in, 284–286

      finding benefits in, 278–281

      and power of negative thinking, 281–284

Crow, Sheryl, 269

Cuban, Mark, 119

cues, in building habits, 284–285

D

Daily DBT Diary, 296

daily plan, 128–130

      importance of, 140–141

      prioritizing tasks in, 132–135

dancing, 89–90

dating apps, 148, 158

“dating yourself,” 30

DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy), 287

decision, identifying, 198

decision fatigue, 197

decision making

      and HALT system, 184

      pausing before, 182–183, 202

      Super Pros/Cons lists for, 199–202

      and 3Ps of mindfulness, 197–201

Declaration of Independence, 250

DeGeneres, Ellen, 183, 204, 269

Delevingne, Cara, 269

Deloitte, 118

depression

      annual workplace cost of, 257

      and app usage, 158–159

      defined, 18

      and imbalance, 83

      medication and therapy for treating, 269–273

      occasional, 19

      seeking mental health treatment for, 268

detail-orientation, 22

dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT), 287

dialectical thinking, 288–289, 293

difference, making a, 51

digital detox, 155–163

digital diet maintenance plan, 163–166, 260–261

Dirty Dancing (film), 89, 114

disconnecting, 77

disgust, characteristics of, 187

distancing, by naming emotions, 186

“doing it all,” 59–60

dopamine, 147–150

drama, in relationship, 243

dream jobs, defining, 51–53

Duff, Hilary, 64–65

E

eating, mindful, 181

Eat Pray Love (Gilbert), 81

eBay, 257

education, of romantic partner, 238–239

Einstein, Albert, 166

Eliot, T. S., 213

email, managing, 160

emails

      allowing, to dictate schedule, 141

      pausing before responding to, 183–184, 202

      scheduling time to respond to, 131

emotional intelligence (EQ), 23–25, 189

Emotional Wellness

      allocating more time/energy to, 82–85

      and boundaries, 90

      budgeting time and energy for, 78–80

      and community, 226

      continual development of, 292–293

      and EQ, 189

      and Fitness, 66

      importance of, 25–26

      limiting technology use and, 151–152

      maintaining, 274

      making up for deficit in, 84–85

      meditation effects on, 205

      prioritizing tasks related to, 134–135

      and problems, 23–24

      and romantic relationships, 237

      and sleep, 266

      and success, 6

      and wealth, 54

      and yoga, 87

emotions

      checking magnitude of, 194–195

      as driver in decision making, 198

      duration of, 188

      naming, 186–189

      pausing to deal with, 183–184

      processing, 185–189

      in response to imagination, 196–197

      for women in business, 189

      in workplace, 202

empathy, 22

Employee assistance programs (EAPs), 297–298

energy

      budgeting, for balance, 77–81

      drained by relationships, 243

enforcement, of boundaries, 101–102

engagement, to self, 30–32

Engelbert, Cathy, 118

Enjoli perfume, 58

EQ (emotional intelligence), 23–25, 189

equine therapy, 95–99

Equinox, 83

Errico, Lavinia, 83

eulogies, 46

eustress, 21

excuses, making for friends or family, 243

executive functioning, 151

exhaustion, 251

extreme statements, in self-talk, 215

“eye time,” in technology use, 146

F

Facebook, 50, 156, 204

Facebook Messenger, 120

fact checking, in processing, 194–196

fact finding, in processing, 194

“Fall Risk,” 26, 282

Family

      budgeting time and energy for, 78–80

      obligation to, 248

      relationships with, 239–240

      saying “no” to, 109–111

      setting goals for, 68–69

fear(s)

      characteristics of, 187

      fight-or-flight response to imagined, 197

      thinking about, 281–284

fear of missing out (FOMO), 162

feelings. see also emotions

      about current balance, 81–82

      connection of beliefs and thoughts with, 216–218

      for describing emotions, 187

fight-or-flight response, 197

Finance

      budgeting time and energy for, 78–80

      setting goals for, 67–68

finding meaning of life, 49–50

finding your purpose, 46–49, 47

“finding yourself,” 35–36

Fitness

      adding to four F words, 66

      in balance, 83

      budgeting time and energy for, 78–80

      setting goals for, 70–71

“5,4,3,2,1” method, 184

five-year plans, 136–137

“Fix You” (song), 29

flexibility, in schedule, 129

flexible spending accounts (FSAs), 298

flight plan, for “having it all,” 71

Florida State University, 171

focus

      and being present, 178

      meditation and, 207, 210

      and productivity, 129

follow-up, with new people, 179–180

FOMO (fear of missing out), 162

formation flying, 247

four F words, 65–71

free activities, 246

friends

      as chosen family, 240–241

      close, 240–241

      on Facebook, 156

      meeting new, 245–247, 248

      online vs. in-person, 168

      saying “no” to, 106–108

      support of, 225–226

FSAs (flexible spending accounts), 298

fugazi, 147

Fun

      budgeting time and energy for, 78–80

      setting goals for, 69–70

G

game apps, 158

Gates, Melinda, 121

ghosting, 244

Gilbert, Elizabeth, 81

The Glass Castle (Walls), 240

Glossier, 121–122

goals

      manifesting, 219–222

      prioritizing tasks based on, 133–134, 136

goal-setting, 65–67

      for Family, 68–69

      for Finance, 67–68

      for Fitness, 70–71

      flight plan for, 71–73

      for Fun, 69–70

      in night routines, 264

      specificity in, 74

Golden Girls, 266

Gomez, Selena, 5, 64

Goodall, Jane, 249

good qualities

      discovering one’s own, 33–35

      for people in your community, 226–227

      for significant others, 238–239

      in work relationships, 228–229

GoodTherapy.org, 297

Google, 50, 204, 297

Google apps, 158

Goop, 213

gratitude

      and happiness, 39–44

      in morning routines, 262

gratitude journals, 41–42

Green, Sir Philip, 166–167

Greenfield, Susan, 152

group meetings, 130–131

guided meditation, 208, 210

“gut,” listening to, 252–255

H

habits

      breaking unhealthy, 285, 292

      learning new, 284–285, 292

Haddish, Tiffany, 64

HALT System, 184

Happify, 295

happiness

      characteristics of, 187

      forcing yourself to be happy, 202

      and gratitude, 39–44

      optimal salary for, 48

“harder,” working, 117

hard work, manifestation and, 222, 223

Harvard Health, 41

Harvard University, 129

Having It All (Brown), 58

“having it all,” 57–74

      defining, 58–59

      flight plan for, 71–73

      and four F words, 65–71

      and job crafting, 50

      and leaning in, 60–65

      and timing, 59–60

Headspace, 208, 295–296

healthy habits, building, 284–285, 292

heartfulness, 176

Herd, Whitney Wolfe, 120

Hewlett-Packard, 257

“the hey method,” 247

Hollis, Rachel, 264–265

honesty, 227, 228–229

“How I Am Awesome” list, 33–34

Hudson, Kate, 240

Huffington, Arianna, 180

Huffington Post, 180

hunger, decision making and, 184

hyperperception, 22

I

ice, grounding exercises with, 185

identity, career in, 83

illnesses, 251–252

imagination, emotions in response to, 196–197

imbalance, 75

immune system

      meditation effects on, 205

      mental health day to improve, 251–252

improvisation, 72

“I’m so bad” (skit), 86

indecision, 197, 198

in person support groups, 298–299

Inside Out (film), 186

Instagram, 156

intentionality

      in equine therapy, 96

      in self-care, 44–46

intentions, setting, 44–46

“Into the Mystic” (song), 165

intuition, 252–255

invitations, meeting, 130–131

iPod, 164

J

Jablow, Jennie, 209

J.Crew, 119

Jefferson, Thomas, 135

job crafting, 50–54, 55

job interviews, 217

Jobs, Steve, 119, 236

job titles, 53–54

Jolie, Angelina, 210–211

JOMO (joy of missing out), 162

Jones, Rashida, 121

journaling, 216

joy

      cultivating, in crises, 284–286

      sparking, in online life, 156

“joy bucket,” 121

      and making meaningful connections, 233

      using schedule to add to, 130

joy of missing out (JOMO), 162

“Just Not Sorry” email plug-in, 114

K

Kahlo, Frida, 239

Kaling, Mindy, 186

karma, 221–222

kenzoku, 240

kindness, 244–245

King, Martin Luther, Jr., 268

knee-jerk reactions, 183

Kondo, Marie, 156

Kunis, Mila, 35

L

Lady Gaga, 221

Lapin, Nicole, 137, 300–302

      achievements and problems of, 2–4

      breakdown experienced by, 9–13

      on building skills, 211–212

      digital detox by, 153–155

      on mental health days, 124–127

      as Miss America pageant judge, 139–140

      PTSD experienced by, 15–16

Lawrence, Jennifer, 162

leadership, 22

Lean In (Sandberg), 61, 73

leaning in, 60–65, 73–74

legacies, 46

licensed clinical social workers (LICSWs), 298

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up (Kondo), 156

life coaches, 235–237

Lincoln, Abraham, 268

LinkedIn, 161, 235

loneliness, decision making and, 184

Lovato, Demi, 268

love letter, to yourself, 35

“The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock” (Eliot), 213

Lyft, 172

Lyons, Jenna, 119

M

Madonna, 213

manifestation, 219–222, 223

mantras, 42, 213–214

Markle, Meghan, 240

Mayer, Marissa, 132

McConaughey, Matthew, 147

McCormack, Will, 121

meaning

      of companies, 49–50

      of life, finding, 49–50

      of work, 49

medication, for mental health, 269–273

meditation, 203–223

      clearing your mind, 204–208

      learning to meditate, 206–207

      and manifestation, 219–222

      mantras in, 213–214

      and mindset, 214–219

      in morning routines, 262

      myths about, 222–223

      types of, 208–212

      walking, 125

meditation centers, 299

meeting people

      mindfulness in, 177–181

      tips for, 245–247

meetings

      group, 130–131

      outdoor, 122

      productivity and, 119

Meetup.com, 246

memory(-ies)

      formation of positive, 43

      remembering names, 178–180

mental exercise, meditation as, 206

mental fatigue, 123–124

mental health days

      and productivity, 124–127

      signs of needing, 250–252

      taking, as self-care, 255–257

      using, 275

mental health treatment, seeking, 19, 268–274

mental hygiene, maintaining, 209

mental illness

      depression and anxiety as, 19

      seeking treatment for, 275

mental wellness, 23–25

mentoring, 111–113, 234–235

meticulousness, 22

Microsoft, 50

mind

      clearing your, 204–208

      control over activity of, 203–204

mindfulness, 175–202

      about how to spend time, 63–64

      current state of, 176–177

      during digital detox, 154

      in gratitude journal, 43

      in meeting new people, 177–181

      pausing in, 182–185

      pouncing in, 197–201

      processing in, 185–197

      procrastinating with, 135

      3 Ps of, 181–182

Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, 299

Mindfulness Daily (app), 296

mindset, 214–219

Miraval, 95

Miss America Organization, 139

Miss America pageant, 139–141

mission statements, 49–50, 54

money

      and Finance goals, 67–68

      and happiness, 48

Moore, Mandy, 268

Morissette, Alanis, 287

morning routines, 260–263

Morrison, Van, 165

movie, of your life, 34–35

multitasking, 22

N

names, remembering, 178–180

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), 296, 299

National Institute of Mental Health, 296–297

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 295

Navy SEALS, 214

negative aspects, of stress, 20–21

negative self-talk

      and mindfulness, 188–189

      stopping, 190–193

negative thinking, power of, 281–284

negativity bias, 188

neuroplasticity

      and changing unhealthy habits, 292

      and technology use, 150–152

news, online vs. print, 168

newsletters, in email, 160

newspapers, 164

Nextdoor, 298

night routines, 263–267

Nike, 50

nomophobia, 150

no-phones-for-an-hour rule, 121

The Notebook (film), 81

notebooks, 165

notifications, on phone settings, 156–157

Nye, Bill, 230

O

Obama, Michelle, 65

Ocasio-Cortez, Alexandra, 64

One-Note, 120

online forums, 296–297

optimism, 40

options, identifying, 198–199

organization, 22

Osbourne, Sharon, 5

Otogawa, Kobun Chino, 236

outdoor meetings, 122

overbooked schedules, 122–124

Oz, Daphne, 234–235

P

Paltrow, Gwyneth, 213

paradox, truth as, 287

Parker, Madalyn, 256

Parker, Sarah Jessica, 166

Parks and Recreation (television series), 121

pattern recognition, 253

pausing, 182–185

peer mentors, 235

percentages, converting to, 80

“perfect” balance, 87

perfectionism

      positive aspects of, 22

      and productivity, 120, 141

personal boundaries, 90–93

personal mission statement, 54

pessimism, 21

phases, in life, 60

phone addiction, 143

phones, limits on, 121. see also smartphone use

physical changes, with emotions, 187

Physical Health, 78–80

physical health, meditation effects on, 205

Pinterest, 161, 219–220

plan

      daily (see daily plan)

      for digital detox, 173

      for digital diet maintenance, 163–166

      for “having it all,” 71–73

      for use of technology, 152–155

planners, physical, 164–165

Poehler, Amy, 72, 242

point of view, processing situation from another, 195

Pokémon Go, 158

positive aspects

      of life, focus on, 40

      of problems, 21–23

      of stress, 20–21

positive attitude, 228

positive memories, formation of, 43

positive self-talk, 214–215

post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), 15–16

pouncing, 197–201

power of negative thinking, 281–284

power poses, 218

Predictable Time Off (PTO), 132

presence (being present), 176–178

      during digital detox, 154–155

      and mindfulness, 181

      and technology use, 146

pride, about decisions made, 201

Princeton University, 48

principles, of romantic partner, 238

prioritization

      and balance, 76–82

      of daily tasks, 132–138

      of self, 36–38

problems, 7, 9–28

      admitting to, 14–17

      burnout leading to other, 17–21

      and Emotional Wellness, 23–24

      learning to handle, 24–26

      looking for solutions to, 286

      perception of, 27

      positive aspects of, 21–23

problem-solving, 23–24

processing, 185–197

procrastination

      dating apps used as, 148

      and prioritizing tasks, 133–134

      strategic, 135–138

productivity, 117–142

      and break time, 130–132

      and consistency, 139–141

      deciding on most important tasks, 132–135

      and mental health days, 257

      and mindfulness, 181

      and procrastination, 135–138

      and scheduling, 122–129

      tips for increasing, 118–122

professional boundaries, 93–95

professionals, relationships with, 234–237

Pros/Cons lists, 199–202

PsychCentral, 297

PsychologyToday.com, 297

PTO (Predictable Time Off), 132

PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder), 15–16

purpose, finding your, 46–49, 47

Q

quitting your job, as goal, 136, 137

R

realism, 21

recharging, meditation for, 204

recurring thoughts, labeling, 189–190

reflection, prompts for, 43–44

reframing, of work, 50–51

relationships, 225–248

      boundaries in, 100–101

      with close friends, 240–241

      creating a community, 226–227

      doing your part in, 227

      with family, 239–240

      letting go of unhealthy, 242–245

      meeting new friends, 245–247

      with professionals, 234–237

      romantic, 237–239

      saying “no” in, 106–111

      and success, 40

      at work, 228–234

repetitive motion, meditation during, 210–211

resentment, scheduling break time to prevent, 132

resolutions, 136

resources, drained by relationship, 243

retreats, 300

reverse brainstorming, 200–201

rewards, in building habits, 284–285

Rhimes, Shonda, 102

Rich Bitch (Lapin), 65

Rihanna, 166

rituals, for self-care, 258–259

Robbins, Tony, 237

rock balancing, 259

Romance, 78–81

romantic relationships, 169, 237–239

roses, 43

routines

      changing, for variety, 246–247

      importance of, 274

      for self-care, 259–267

Rumi, 278

rumination, 215–216

S

sadness, characteristics of, 187

salary

      and happiness, 48

      and mental health days, 256–257

Sandberg, Sheryl, 61, 73

Sawyer, Diane, 139

saying “no,” 103–114

      as disappointment, 115

      to family, 109–111

      to friends and acquaintances, 106–108

      to mentees, 111–113

      to significant others, 108–109

      and success, 115

      tips for, 113–114

      at work, 103–106

schedule(s)

      allowing inbox to dictate, 141

      for chaotic life, 141

      and mental health days, 124–127

      overbooked, 122–124

      prioritizing tasks in, 132–135

      and productivity, 119, 122–129

      sleep in, 180

      weekday and weekend, 128–129

Schumer, Amy, 86

search, for enjoyment, 148–150

security, 238

See’s Candies, 254

self, 29–55

      changes in, due to toxic relationship, 243

      commitment to oneself, 30–32

      discovering one’s good qualities, 33–35

      and finding meaning of life, 49–50

      finding your purpose, 46–49

      and “finding yourself,” 35–36

      happiness and gratitude with, 39–44

      intentionality in self-care, 44–46

      and job crafting, 50–54

      and selfishness, 36–38

      setting boundaries to value, 100–101

self-care, 7, 249–275

      checking in on, 250–252

      creating rituals for, 258–259

      intentionality in, 44–46

      and intuition, 252–255

      quiz about, 37–38

      routines for, 259–267

      seeking mental health treatment, 268–274

      and success, 27*, 28

      taking mental health days, 255–257

self-confidence, improving, 218–219

self-empowerment, 218–219, 222

selfishness, 36–38, 55

self-judgment, and catastrophizing, 194

selflessness, 36, 55

self-talk

      negative, 188–193

      positive, 214–215

Seneca, 284

senses, 253

sensitivity, 22

Serenity Prayer, 280

service providers, relationships with, 234–237

serving others, 42

seven-day digital detox, 155–163

shame, 288

shared history, 241

significant others. see also romantic relationships

      maintenance of self and, 38

      need for, 55

      saying “no” to, 108–109

silence, 183

simple technology, 166–167

Singh, Lilly “Superwoman,” 5, 64

situational anxiety, 19

skill building, 211–212, 223

Skype, 119, 171–172

Slack, 120

sleep

      and blue light, 161

      in night routines, 266

      and performance, 267

      poor, as sign of needing mental health day, 251

      in schedule, 180

      and technology use, 154

sluggishness, 251

small changes (baby steps), 120

“smarter,” working, 117–118, 130, 138

smartphone use, 144–147

      benefits of, 171–172

      changing setting, 156–157

      in morning routines, 262–263

      phone-free zones, 163

      using simpler technology, 166–167

      withdrawal from, 153–154

smiling, to release ANP, 189

Smith, Dodie, 266

Snapchat, 161

social activities, timing of, 120

social connections. see also relationships

      benefits of, at work, 229–230

      creating, 226–227

      making meaningful, 230–234

      with smartphones, 172–173

      and success, 40

      and technology use, 152, 166

social media

      benefits of scaling down, 169

      and depression, 158–159

      fast from, 161–162

somatic awareness, 254

somatic therapy, 258–259

sound systems, 165

Spade, Kate, 54

speaking up, 105–106

spiritual advisors, 236

standing meetings, 119

stoicism, 283

Stone, Emma, 162

stress

      eustress, 21

      meditation for management of, 204, 205

      physical effects of, 205

      positive and negative aspects of, 20–21

      and sleep, 251

success

      and being the best, 142

      and boundaries, 114–115

      busyness as path to, 123–124

      and Emotional Wellness, 6, 25

      and happiness, 39–40

      limiting technology use and, 151–152

      and saying “no,” 115

      skill building by successful people, 223

      and team connections, 230

Super Men

      balance for, 86

      good qualities for, 238–239

Super Pros/Cons lists, 199–202

Superwoman

      as destructive ideal, 14

      as fictional, 8

      origin story of, 1–2

Super Woman

      defining, 8

      Superwoman vs., 2

TheSuperWomanGuide.com, 300

The Super Woman Guide to Trips, Treatments, and Therapies for Balance on a Budget (Lapin), 300–302

The Super Woman Journal, 60, 79, 133–134, 264, 302

The Super Woman Quiz, 301

The Super Woman Squad, 302

support groups

      online, 296–297

      in person, 298–299

Swayze, Patrick, 89

T

talking, to strangers, 247

Talkspace, 295

Tan, Amy, 259

Taylor, Elizabeth, 32

technology, 7, 143–173

      benefits of using less, 167–172

      and changes in brain, 150–152

      developing plan for use of, 152–155

      digital diet maintenance plan, 163–166

and dopamine, 147–150

      seven-day digital detox, 155–163

      smartphone use, 144–147

      use of simpler, 166–167

technology-free day, 162

10% Happier, 208

text messages, scheduling time to respond to, 131

“thank-you sandwich,” 105

therapist, finding a, 297–298

therapists, 235, 272–273

thoughts

      identifying beliefs behind, 215–218

      naming, 189–190

3 Ps of mindfulness, 181–182

      pausing, 182–185

      pouncing, 197–201

      processing, 185–197

three-year plans, 136–137

Thrive Global, 180

Tiffany’s, 30–31

time

      balance as equal distribution of, 87

      budgeting, for balance, 77–81

      keeping, without smartphones, 164

      as valuable asset, 102

      valuing others, 146

      wasting, on apps, 158

time management, 121–122

timing

      of “having it all,” 59–60

      in planning activities, 92–93

      of responses and decision making, 202

Tinder, 148, 156–158

tiredness, decision making and, 184

titles, job, 53–54

TopShop, 166

touch, self-soothing with, 202

toxic relationships, ending, 242–245

toxic relationships, letting go of, 242–245

Transcendental Meditation (TM), 213

truth

      knowing your, 83, 84

      as paradox, 287

Twain, Mark, 134, 135

Twitter, 156

U

ultimate outcome, of decision making, 199, 200

“uncomfortable,” 94–95

understanding, as quality, 238

unhealthy habits, 285, 292

unhealthy relationships, letting go of, 242–245

Union, Gabrielle, 107

University College London, 284

Unroll.Me, 160

U.S. Special Forces, 214

V

validation, 227

values

      acting in accordance with, 176

      living by own, 45

      shared, with friends, 241

      of significant other, 238

Venmo, 161

visualization, 221

Vogue, 198

voice, using, 105–106

vulnerability, 288

W

walking meditation, 125

Walls, Jeannette, 240

wardrobe, simplifying, 119

Warrior, Padmasree, 204

watches, 164

weighting, for Super Pros/Cons list, 199–201

Weight Watchers system, 79

Weiss, Emily, 121

Whitman, Meg, 257

WHO (World Health Organization), 17*

“why,” finding your, 46–49

Williams, Serena, 236–237

Williams, Wendy, 167

Winfrey, Oprah, 100, 236

Wintour, Anna, 198

wishes, making, 39

withdrawal, from smartphone use, 153–154

The Wolf of Wall Street (film), 147

women

      burnout experienced by, 4–5, 17*

      in business, emotions for, 189

      confidence for, 217–218

Wood, Natalie, 32

Woods, Elle, 41

work. see also career

      affected by personal issues, 16–17

      improved by digital diet, 170, 171

      job crafting, 50–54

      loving, 55

      personal perception of, 49

      relationships at, 228–234

      saying “no” at, 103–106

      setting boundaries at, 93–95

      and smartphone use, 144–146

      smartphone use at, 173

working smarter, 117–118

work/life balance, 76–77

workplace, emotions in, 202

workweek, productive hours in, 118

World Health Organization (WHO), 17

worry, 22

worst-case scenario, 282

wounds, healing, 278

Y

Yahoo, 132

Yale University, 49

yoga, 87, 259, 274

YouTube, 161

Z

Zeta-Jones, Catherine, 269

Zuckerberg, Randi, 234–235