CONTENTS
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Introduction

Take the Quiz: How Intimate is Your Marriage?

1.Respect the Man You Married by Listening to Him

2.Give Up Control to Have More Power

3.Keep Surrendering a Secret

4.Take Care of Yourself First

5.Express Your Desires

6.Relinquish the Chore of Managing the Finances

7.Receive Graciously

8.Foster Friendships with Women

9.Resist Biting the Bait

10.Avoid Setting Up a Negative Expectation

11.Stop Reading His Mind

12.Don’t Crowd the Setter

13.Abandon the Myth of Equality

14.Set Limits by Saying “I Can’t”

15.Strive to Be Vulnerable

16.Admit It When You’re Hurt

17.Let Your Husband Be the Children’s Father

18.Listen for the Heart Message

19.Take a Feminine Approach to Sex

20.Say Yes to Sex

21.Never Eat Worms

22.Ignore the Red Herring

23.Rely on a Spiritual Connection

24.Let Him Solve Some of Your Problems

25.Be a Diplomat in the Male Culture

26.Measure Your Progress

27.Spend Your Energy Surplus on Yourself

How It Is Now

Appendix: Surrendered Circles