INDEX

A

AFE zone, 45, 60

anal beads, 123

anal intercourse, 122–125

foreplay for, 123

orgasm experiences and, 122

positions, 123

props, 123

steps, 123–124

anal massage, 122

anal orgasm, 100, 122

anal toys, 123

anterior fornix erotic zone. See AFE zone

B

blended orgasm, 100

blow job

giving great, 84–85

H-spot and, 60

large penis and, 85

P-zone and, 60

R-area and, 60

spiking his orgasm and, 139

stand-up kiss, 74, 75

steps, 84

swallowing, 85

using hot and cold, 76

body image and women, 32

bump and grind, 89

butt plugs, 123

C

C-spot, 44

car sex, 89

clitoris

innie or outie, 12

orgasm, 99

rubbing with penis, 75, 80

clitoris-spot. See C-spot

cock ring, 58, 112

Coital Alignment Technique (C.A.T.)

position, adapted, 145

cunnilingus, 80–82

1970s and, 10

erection lose and, 74

multiple orgasm and, 125, 144

power movie, 82

steps, 80

U-spot and, 60

D

delaying his orgasm, 136–137

Desire Curve, 98

Desire Set Point, 98

diet role, 16, 18

E

Eastern lovemaking techniques

experiences, 152

ejaculation, female, 76–77

erection, lose of, 74–76

exercise role, 16, 18

Hot Hips Swivel, 22

Hungry Lioness, 24

Kegels, 20–21

kick-dancing, 24

Kundalini yoga, 26–29, 66, 130, 152

Lusty Cat, 22

pelvic twists, 22

sexual confidence increase exercise, 24

sexual energy and libido increase exercise, 24

shag workout for her, 22–24

extra-genital orgasm, 100

eye contact, 64, 84, 138, 154

F

F-spot, 58

faking orgasm, women, 103

fantasies

couple encounters, 38–39

female, 32, 36

getting your guy to fantasize

about you, 36

help needed for, 37

male, 37

myths and misinformation, 39

nurture your, 34

one-week adventure, 39

role playing, 38

fellatio. See blow job

female ejaculation myths and reality, 77

female superior position, 60, 106, 107–108, 139

flying V, 107

foreplay, 62–77

anal sex as, 123

elements of, 64

eye contact, 64

focus energy during, 130

G-spot stroke, 72

games. See games

hands-on for her, 70, 72

hands-on for him, 72

kissing. See kiss

as mind game, 64

myths and misinformation, 64

as prelude to orgasm, 64

public, 88

rubbing clitoris, 75

simultaneous orgasm and, 142

stretching out, 142, 144

teasing, 66

touching and stroking, 70–72

frenulum-spot. See F-spot

G

G-spot

acceptance of theory, 99

connecting spots, 60

existence proved, 99

female ejaculation and, 77

female superior position and, 107, 108

finding female, 44

his, 59, 135, 136, 137

multiple orgasms and, 125

orgasm, 100

rear-entry position and, 111

standing position and, 114

stroking, 72

vibrator to locate, 100

Yabyum and, 153

games, 86–90

bump and grind, 89

car sex, 89

for experienced lovers, 148, 150

Kabbazah, 150

Karezza, 148, 150

master/mistress, 90

office call, 90

outercourse, 89

public foreplay, 88

silly games that work, 90

slave, 90

striptease, 89

H

H-spot, his, 58, 60

health and orgasm, 18, 42

hot spots

AFE zone, 45

C-spot, 44, 60

connecting, 60

F-spot, 58

finding, 44–45

G-spot, 44, 59, 60

H-spot, 58, 60

individual hot spots, 45, 59

mutual exploration of, 60

P-zone, 59, 60

R-area, 59, 60

tip, 45

U-spot, 45, 60

hysteria history, 16

I

insatiable bodies, 14–28

insatiable minds, 32–39

couple fantasy encounters, 38–39

her, 32–36

his, 37

intercourse alone and women’s orgasms, 12

intimacy over orgasm myth, 9, 10, 13

introduction, 8–13

K

Kabbazah, 150

Karezza, 148, 150

Kegels, 20–21, 150

kiss

essential, 68

importance, 68

scent, 70

stand-up, perfect, 74, 75

Tantric, 152, 153

Kundalini yoga, 26–28, 66, 130, 152

L

loss of desire, 10

Low Desire Syndrome, 98

M

masturbation

acceptable, 134

amount of, 56

attitude toward, 42

butt plugs and, 123

edge play, 57

expanding her orgasms and, 147

expanding his orgasms and, 147

fantasizing while, 34

hot spots and, 44

how some people masturbate, 48

as learning tool, 57

male orgasm and, 135

multiple orgasms and, 125

mutual, 52

myths and misinformation, 42

number of people who masturbate, 58

prolonging techniques for men, 57

reasons, 56

time to orgasm, average, 12

tip, 52

varying strokes, 57

meditation, sexual, 24

men, on female orgasm, 102

men versus women thinking about sex, 37

men versus women’s orgasms, 12

missionary position, 60, 106, 110

multiple orgasms, 124–125

encouraging, 125

helping men, 125

his, 135

types, 124

myths and misinformation, 9–10, 12, 13

about fantasies, 39

about female ejaculation, 77

about foreplay, 64

about intimacy over orgasm, 9, 10, 13

about masturbation, 42

about quickies, 119

about rear-entry position, 9

about vibrators, 42

N

New Relationship Euphoria (NREU), 98

O

office call, 90

oral sex, 78–85

blow job. See blow job

cunnilingus. See cunnilingus

as foreplay, 64

people’s best experience, 82

swallowing, 85

orgasm a day (women), 42

Orgasm Loop (O Loop), 120, 126–131

explanation of creation of, 128–129

focus energy during foreplay, 130

men and, 131

staying in, 131

steps, 129–130

tip, 129

visualize arousal before lovemaking, 129–130

orgasms, about her, 92–103

anal orgasm, 100

blended, 100

cervix as trigger, 94

clitoral orgasm, 99

defining, 97

difference from his, 134

ease variation among women, 102

educated with money women and, 100

expanding, 24, 147

experience of best, 96

extra-genital orgasm, 100

faking, 103

feeling good reasons, 98

key to reaching, 106–107

men on, 102

pressure orgasm, 97

reason for having, 96

types of, 99–100

vaginal/cervix orgasm, 99

vaginal/G-spot orgasm, 100

orgasms, his, 132–139

categories, 135

counting the strokes, 137

definition, 134

delaying, 136, 137

difference from her’s, 134

dry, 136

ejaculation, without, 135

expanding, 147

G-spot, 136, 137

on her body experiences, 138

imminence determination, 137

inevitable reasons for, 134

masturbation, 134, 135

multiple, 135

outside-your-body experience, 139

paths to, 135

spiking, 138, 139

stimuli, alternating, 137

three-finger draw, 136

outercourse, 89

P

P-zone, 59, 60, 135, 136

Passion Flower, 154

passion killers, 18

PC muscle. See pubococcygeus muscle

pelvic bounce, 66

pelvic thrust, 66

perineum. See P-zone

positions for orgasm, 104–114

anal sex, 123

basic six, 107–114

C.A.T., adapted, 145

determining best, 106

experiment, 107

favorites, 108

female superior position, 60, 106, 107–108

flying V, 107

manual stimulation in any position, 106

missionary position, 60, 106, 110

oval track move, 108

rear-entry position, 111

reverse cowgirl, 107, 108

scissors, 147

side-by-side position, 111

sitting position, 112

standing position, 114

Woman Acting the Part of Man, 60

Yabyum, 60

problems, big three, 16

public foreplay, 88

public places sex experiences, 118

pubococcygeus muscle

delaying orgasm and, 137

expanding his orgasm and, 147

female superior position and flexing of, 108

finding best position and, 106

flexing during intercourse, 131

flexing while thinking yourself off, 36

Kabbazah, and, 150

Karezza and, 150

Kegels and, 20, 135

Kundalini yoga and, 26

pelvic twists and, 22

spiking his orgasm and, 138, 139

vaginal/cervix orgasm and, 99

Q

quickies

assumption about, 118

essentials, 120

making it work for females also, 119–120

myths and misconceptions, 119

tip, 120

R

R-area, 59, 60

raphe. See R-area

rear-entry position, 9, 111

reverse cowgirl position, 107, 108

S

sacred sex, achieving, 140–154

are you there yet question, 155

expanding orgasms, 147

experiences with Tantric path, 146

extra-genital orgasm, 153

games, 148, 150

Kabbazah, 150

Karezza, 148, 150

Passion Flower, 154

simultaneous orgasm. See simultaneous orgasm

staying on the edge, 147

Tantric kiss, 152, 154

Tantric twist, 146

techniques to slow him down and speed her up, 146–147

whole body orgasm, 152

Yabyum, 153–154

sex and relationships, 34

Shag Workout, 22–24

side-by-side position, 111

simultaneous orgasm, 142–145

C.A.T. position, adapted, 145

experiences, 144

keys to, 142

ladies first question, 144, 145

stretch out foreplay and, 142, 144

techniques, 142, 144, 145

sitting position, 112

size difference question, 85

standing position, 114

stress and orgasms, 42

striptease, 89

stroking and touching, 70–72

swallowing, 85

T

Tantric

experiences, 146

kiss, 152, 153, 154

twist, 146

teasing, 66

think yourself off (women), 36

touching and stroking, 70–72

toys. See anal toys; vibrators

U

U-spot (urethra-spot), 45, 60

V

vaginal/cervix orgasm, 99

vaginal/G-spot orgasm, 100

verbal tease, 66

vibrators, 42–43, 48–49

anal, 123

Butterfly, 49

cock ring, 112

Eroscillator 2, 48

expanding her orgasm and, 147

finding G-spot with, 100

Fukuoku 9000, 49

G-spot attachments, 49

G-spot discovery with, 44

G Swirl, 49

Hitachi Magic Wand, 48

introduction of, 16

Kegel exercise with, 21

Laya Spot, 49

mutual masturbation and, 52

myths and misinformation, 42

OhMiBod, 49

photograph of, 43

Pocket Rocket, 49, 120

Rabbit, 49

reason for, 48

side-by-side position and, 111

sitting position and, 112

Sweetheart, 49

Talking Head, 49

Water Dancer, 49

visual tease, 66

W

whole body orgasm, 152

Woman Acting the Part of Man position, 60

women versus men thinking about sex, 37

women versus men’s orgasms, 12

Y

Yabyum, 60, 153–154

yoga, 18

health benefits, 28

Kundalini, 26–28, 66, 130, 152

sexuality and, 18

therapists’ use of, 28