Activity, sleep disrupted by, 57–58
Acupuncture, 386
Adenoids, 340
Adopted children, 319–28
attachment process and, 323
bedtime rituals for, 326–27
co-sleeping with, 323–24
creating sleep situation for, 322
lovies for, 325–26
observing and listening to, 322–23
professional help for, 328
sleep history of, 320–21
Adult sleep, 361–70
bedtime routine for, 368–69
environment for, 367–68
exercise and, 366–67
organizing for, 365
relaxation techniques and, 369
substances to avoid, 365–66
worry about, 362–63
Air quality, 72
Alarm clocks and timers, 72–73, 180, 193, 224, 253, 276
Allergies, 66, 68, 161, 247, 250, 335, 338, 339, 372, 383
air quality and, 72
defined, 336
ear infections and, 315
food, 82, 84, 149, 154, 200, 336
night waking and, 153–54
symptoms of, 336–37
Alternative medicine, 385–87
American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), 86, 371
American Academy of Sleep Medicine, 385
American Heart Association, 87
Angela (author’s daughter), xvii
Antibiotics, 317
Aquariums or fish bowls, 161, 250
Aromatherapy, 101
Aspirin, 317
Asthma, 66, 161, 247, 338, 339, 372, 383
air quality and, 72
defined, 335
night waking and, 153–54
symptoms of, 336–37
Attachment, 185, 323. See also Bonding
Audiobooks, 92–93, 136, 161, 177, 254, 282
Awakening, 196. See also Early birds; Sleep schedule
difficulty during, 383
Baby and child monitors, 279, 281, 375, 376, 378
Bad dreams, 205, 206, 211, 212–13
Bed(s), 291–93. See also Crib-to-bed move
qualities needed in, 65–67
safety precautions for, 66, 375, 376
toddler, 291–92
Bed-to-floor-to-out-the-door technique, 223–24
Bed-wetting, 145, 259–61, 309, 383
Bedrooms
childproofing checklist for, 377–78
special big-kid, 225–26
as a special sleeping place, 277–78
television in, 85
Bedtime, 43–48, 196. See also Sleep schedule
determining optimum, 46–48
early awakening and, 192–93
parental disagreements on, 128
Bedtime battles, 105–22
bedtime routine and, 108–9
reasons for, 105–8
solutions for ending, 109–12
Bedtime charts, 114–16, 139–40
for adopted children, 326–27
for different homes, 117
for independent sleep, 280
Bedtime routine, 59–64, 91, 106, 201
for adopted children, 326–27
for adults, 368–69
beginning earlier, 109–10
changing perspective on, 108–9
evolution of, 122
importance of, 60–61
for independent sleep, 280
keys for good, 63–64
lack of enticing, 107
night-weaning and, 176–77
nighttime fears and, 237–38
parental presence in, 126
popularity with children, 61–62
putting together, 112–13
for special needs children, 312–13
sufficient time for, 131–32
for twins, 329
writing down, 111–12
Bedtime setting. See Sleep environment
Big-kid bed hoopla, 294–95
Biological clock, 25, 43, 55–58, 71, 131, 245–46. See also Darkness; Light
adult sleep and, 363–64
bedtime routine and, 60
characteristics of, 8–9
individuality in, 44
jet lag and, 356
sleepiness regulated by, 55–57
wake-up time and, 48–50
Blankets, 68–70, 232, 371, 376, 378
Bonding, 323, 327. See also Attachment
Bottle
ear infections and, 318
weaning from, 117–18, 150, 155, 350–52
Brain development, 51
Breastfeeding, 102, 117–18, 156. See also Weaning
caffeine intake and, 365
fearing the end of, 170
as a habit, 168–69
as a lovey, 167–68
multipurpose benefit of, 166–67
reluctance to substitute, 167
sacred process phenomenon of, 169–70
as a sleep aid, 125–26
teething relief and, 307
Brigham and Women's Hospital, 57
prevention of, 201–2
reasons for, 200–201
signs of, 199
treatment of, 202–3
Bumper pads, 373–74
Burglar alarms, 265
Caffeine, 365–66
Camping, in the bedroom, 282
Canadian Paediatric Society, 86
Car trips, 253–54, 354–55, 372, 384
Carbon monoxide alarms, 372
Cardiopulmonary resuscitation (CPR), 373
CD players and tape recorders, 161, 282
Chamomile, 317
Change, 347–57. See also Stress
family life events, 347–49
new baby, 349–50
night waking and, 154–55
separation anxiety and, 150
trips and sleepovers, 353–57
Charts. See Bedtime charts; Comparison chart; Sticker charts
Child abuse, 372
Childproofing, 197, 265, 294, 376, 377–78. See also Safety
Children’s Memorial Hospital, 309
Chiropractic care, 386
Choking hazards, 378
Cigarette smoke, 318, 337, 339, 366, 371–72
Clearing the mind for sleep, 96
Co-sleeping. See also Independent sleep; Lying with child
with adopted children, 323–24
in an unfamiliar place, 355
nightmares and, 207–8
safety precautions for, 375–76
with siblings, 140, 161, 284–85
without nursing, 187–90
Coleton (author’s son), xvii, xxiv, 61, 74, 108, 165, 170, 178, 189, 230, 236, 253
Company in the bedroom, 160–61, 282
Computers and electronics, 58, 75
Consistency
of bedtime routine, 59–64
Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC), 278, 371, 373
Cornell University, 10
Coughing, 383
Cradle safety precautions, 373–75
Cranial osteopathy, 386
Craniopathy, 386
Craniosacral therapy (CST), 386
Crib safety precautions, 373–75
Crib-to-bed move, 287–98
approaches to, 294–96
planning, 290–91
reasons for, 287–90
rejection of, 296–97
Cry-it-out approach, xix–xx, 31–32, 133
Crying, excessive, 32–35
Curiosity, 106–7
Curtain and blind cords, 372, 378
Czeisler, Charles, 57
Darkness, 8, 56, 157, 247, 251, 256
biological effects of, 56–57
fear of, 71, 229, 234, 238–39, 277, 293
morning awakening and, 195
as a nursing cue, 179–80
David (author’s son), xvii, 61, 110–11, 117–18, 120, 121, 189
Daylight saving time, 255–58
Dehumidifiers, 72
Dehydration, 200
Delta sleep, 6
Dement, William C., xviii, 45–46
Dentists, 202–3
Diet. See Nutrition and diet
Doctors. See Health care providers
Dream catchers, 215
Dreaming stage of sleep, 4, 6–7. See also Bad dreams; Nightmares
Ear infections, 247, 250, 315–18, 337
causes of, 315
help for, 317
night waking and, 153
reducing chance of, 317–18
signs of, 316
Early birds, 191–98
encouraging longer sleep in, 195–96
inability to change, 196–98
natural change in, 198
possible causes, 192–94
Echinacea, 317
Electric blankets, 378
Exercise, 85–88
for adults, 366–67
benefits of, 86–87
play as, 87–88
Expectations, reasonable, 36
Eyesight, protection of, 71
Family bedtime, 276
Family bestseller, 117–22, 179, 350
Fathers, 183–85
Fire-safety measures, 70, 372, 378
Food allergies, 82, 84, 149, 154, 200, 336
Futons, 292–93
Gastroesophageal reflux diesease
(GERD). See Reflux
Gelula, Richard L., 255
Get-Out-of-Bed-Free cards, 116
Gifts/prizes
for independent sleep, 283–84
for night visitors, 227–28
for night-weaning, 181–82
for pacifiers, 353
Goldenseal, 317
Growth hormones, 6
Guardrails, 278, 291, 292, 293, 295, 375, 377
Guided imagery, 96
Health care providers. See also Professional help
allergies, asthma, reflux and, 338
bed-wetting and, 261
bruxism and, 201–2
ear infections and, 316
regular appointments with, 372
sleep disorders and, 384–85
snoring and, 340–41
Health problems
adult, 370
beds and, 66
nightmares/terrors and, 214
sleep deficiency and, 10
Hearing problems, 316
Holistic medicine, 385–86
Hopkins-Best, Mary, 319
Hormones, 6, 44, 51, 56, 166, 241, 362
Humidifiers, 72
Humor, 37–38
Hunger alert, 195–96
I’ll-be-right-back technique, 134–35, 281
Independent sleep, 269–85
answering child's calls, 281
bedtime routine for, 280
explaining, 276
family bedtime and, 276
identifying problems, 277
during naptime, 280
planning for, 273–74
preparing bedroom for, 277–78
questions to consider, 270–71
sneaky approach, 279–80
in stages, 275
temporary co-sleeping and, 280–81
Insomnia, 86, 152–53, 309, 336, 337
Insulin, 79
Jet lag, 356–57
Kluytmans, Terry, 147
Kryger, Meir, 102
Laboratory for Children’s Sleep and Arousal Disorders, 299
Leach, Penelope, 143
Learning and sleep deficiency, 10
Light, 8, 56, 157, 224, 256, 276
adult sleep and, 367–69
biological effects of, 56–57
eyesight and, 71
natural sunlight lamps for, 195
as a nursing cue, 179–80
Light sleepers, 151–52
Little Mommy or Daddy, 304
Love/mothering hormones, 166
Lovies, 69, 136, 151, 254, 282, 303
breastfeeding as, 167–68
encouraging attachment to, 73–75, 325–26
Lying with child, 115–16. See also Co-sleeping; Parental presence
Mass, James, 10
Mattresses, 367, 372, 373, 375, 377
on the floor, 292–93
qualities needed in, 65–67
Medication, 84
bed-wetting and, 260
night waking and, 154
nightmares/terrors and, 214
Menstruation and sleep, 362
Milestones, developmental, 149–50, 322
Mobiles and crib toys, 374
Monosodium glutamate (MSG), 81
Monsters, fear of, 233, 234–35, 236–37
Morning Fairy, 283–84
Morning snuggles, 224
Mothers, preference for, 126
Mouth breathing, 383
Mouth guards, 203
Muscle weakness, 384
Music, 107, 135, 136, 161, 196, 224, 276, 282
benefits of, 97–99
during car trips, 355
during naps, 247, 250, 252, 254
night-weaning and, 177, 180, 183
to relieve nighttime fears, 232–33
Music boxes, 282
for adults, 370
benefits of, 51–52
breastfeeding prior to, 175
in the car, 253–54
early awakening and, 192, 194, 195
independent sleep during, 280
jet lag and, 357
length of, 241–42, 245, 246–48
night waking and, 147–48
overly long, late, 55, 106, 130
rituals for adopted children, 326–27
routine for, 249–50
setting time for, 54
signs of need for, 242–45
sleep deficiency and, 12
tips for reluctant nappers, 250–53
National Kidney Foundation, 261
National SAFE Kids Campaign, 371
National Sleep Foundation, xviii, 29–30, 123, 141–42, 255, 311, 361, 385
Natural sunlight lamps, 195
Naturopathy, 386
Night-lights, 56, 137, 194, 232, 261, 355, 367, 372, 378
Night terrors, 145, 208–16, 383
dealing with, 209–10
defined, 208–9
preventing, 211–15
professional help for, 215–16
sleep deficiency and, 10, 148, 214
in special needs children, 309
talking about, 210
Night visits, 217–28
evaluation of, 218–19
mixed messages about, 220–21
sleeping through, 159–60
solutions for, 223–28
Night waking, 129, 141–64, 383
in adopted children, 152, 327–28
reasons for, 144–46
solutions and ideas for, 156–64
Night-weaning, 165–90
co-sleeping and, 187–90
enlisting help for, 183–85
location change for, 180–81
objection to term, 170
obstacles to, 166–70
planning for, 185–86
time perimeters in, 178–79
Nightmares, 145–47, 205–8, 211–16, 277, 383
bad dreams distinguished from, 206
dealing with, 206–7
nap schedule and, 148
preventing, 211–15
professional help for, 215–16
sleep deficiency and, 10
talking about, 208
Nighttime fears, 107, 125, 145–47, 148, 229–39
explaining away, 230
parental messages about, 230
practical tactics for, 232–33
professional help for, 239
real vs. imagined, 231–32
solutions for, 231–38
No-Cry Sleep Solution, The: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night (Pantley), xxiv, 165
Nutrition and diet, 79–84
for adults, 369
foods that break the rules, 81–83
important foods, 83
naps and, 246–47
nightmares/terrors and, 214
sleep inducing, 80
sleep preventing, 80–81
sleepwalking and, 268
timing and amount of meals, 84
Obesity, 340
One-step-at-a-time switcheroo, 295
Original Slumber Bear, 74
Oxytocin, 166
Pacifier, 117–18, 155, 351, 352–53, 372
Pacifier Fairy, 353
Pantley’s Gentle Removal Plan, 171–76, 353
Parental presence, 123–40
don’t stay option, 133–40
making a decision on, 127–29
night waking and, 155–56, 159, 160
problems caused by, 127
reasons for wanting, 124–26
stay option, 130–33
Pediatric psychologists and therapists, 387
Persistence, 35–36
Physical fitness. See Exercise
Pinworms, 200
Portable cribs, 374
Power of 5-3-1, 138–39
Power Sleep (Mass), 10
Prayer, 99–101, 146, 147, 237, 369
Prebedtime routine. See Bedtime routine
Pregnancy and sleep, 362
Principles and Practices of Sleep Medicine, The (Kryger), 102
Prize Chain, 228
Professional help. See also Health care providers; Support and support groups
for adopted children, 328
for nightmares/terrors, 215–16
for nighttime fears, 239
for special needs children, 314
Progressive muscle relaxation, 94–95, 369
Prolactin, 166
Promise of Sleep, The (Dement), xviii, 44–45
Quiet ears technique, 96
Reading, 75, 91–92, 113–14, 195, 235, 256. See also Storytelling
Reflux, 81, 84, 335, 338, 339, 383
defined, 336
night waking and, 153, 154Gentle Removal
signs of, 337
in special needs children, 309
Relaxation techniques, 89–102, 268 stay option, 133
for adults, 369
for bruxism, 202
as a crutch, 102
Rubber Band Bounce, 225, 226–27, 279
Safety, 371–78
co-sleeping, 375–76
cradle and crib, 373–75
general precautions, 371–73
Sears, William, 185
Second wind, 6, 52, 54, 106, 243
Separation anxiety, 299–304
causes of, 300
effects on sleep, 300–301
helping a child with, 301–4
night waking and, 150–51
signs of, 301
Serotonin, 79
Setbacks, 343–46
Siblings
bedtime routine for, 110–11, 349–50
sleeping with, 140, 161, 284–85
Sleep
effects on...sleep, 10–13
important facts about, 4–9
Sleep apnea, 200, 309, 339, 340, 372
Sleep deficiency, 148, 214, 255–56
effects of, 9–13
signs of, 48
Sleep disorder(s), 102, 379–87
alternative medicine for, 385–87
bed-wetting and, 260
defined, 382
exercise and, 86
questions for analysis of, 381–82
signs of, 383–84
solutions for children with, 384–87
Sleep disorder centers, 385
Sleep environment, 65–77. See also Bed(s); Blankets; Darkness; Lovies; Pajamas; Pillows; Quiet; Temperature of bedroom
for adults, 367–68
making changes in, 157–59
night waking and, 148–49
sleeping cubby in, 76–77
specific sleeping place in, 76
Sleep hygiene, 152
Sleep in America (poll), 123, 125, 131, 142, 311
Sleep inertia, 7
Sleep-onset associations, 155–56, 227
Sleep plan, 25–28
crying and, 32–35
night-weaning and, 185–86
questions for, 22–23
sleep disorders and, 379–87
for special needs children, 311
steps in, 35–36
for twins, 333
Sleep schedule
for twins, 331–32
Sleep stages, 4–8
Sleep talking, 10, 145, 266–68
Sleeping cubby, 76–77
Sleeping Like a Baby (Sadeh), 299
Sleepwalking, 10, 145, 216, 263–66, 267–68, 309
Snoring, 200, 309, 337, 339–41, 383
causes of, 339
medical advice on, 340–41
Special needs children, 152, 214, 309–14
defining sleep issues in, 310–11
professional help for, 314
routines and rituals for, 312–13
Stanford University, xviii, 86
Sticker charts
to encourage night dryness, 261
for night visitors, 227–28
for night-weaning, 182
Stone, Richard A., 71
Storytelling, 92–93, 114, 177–78, 195. See also Reading
Stress. See also Change; Worries
adult sleep and, 365
exercise and, 86
nightmares/terrors and, 214–15
sleepwalking and, 268
Strollers, napping in, 250–51, 254
Support and support groups. See also Professional help
for parents of twins, 334
for sleep disorders, 379–80
Survey/test families, xx–xxiii, 142, 227
Sweating during sleep, 383
Teething, 200, 247, 250, 305–8, 344
night waking and, 151
relieving discomfort of, 306–7
symptoms of, 305–6
Tel Aviv University, 11
before bed, 111
fitness diminished by, 85–86
Temperature of bedroom, 71–72, 247, 367, 371
Tiredness, signs of, 248–49. See also Overtiredness
Toddler Adoption: The Weaver's Crafic (Hopkins-Best), 319
Toddler beds, 291–92
Toileting, 145, 193–94, 214, 247, 265, 289
Tonsils, 340
Tooth grinding. See Bruxism
Tot Finder window stickers, 378
Toy boxes, 378
Transitional objects. See Lovies
Trips and vacations, 353–57
routines for, 329
sleep schedule for, 331–32
sleeping arrangements for, 329–30
University of Pennsylvania Medical Center Scheie Eye Institute, 71
Vanessa (author’s daughter), xvii, 284
Vitamin deficiencies, 200
Wake-up time. See Awakening
Weaning, 120–21. See also Night-weaning
from the bottle, 117–18, 150, 155, 350–52
from pacifiers, 117–18, 155, 352–53
Websites
cpsc.gov, 373
kididdles.com, 147
meghanshope.org, 378
nocrysleepsolution.com, 17, 26
pantley.com, 389
Weekend promise, 224–25
White noise, 96, 107, 135, 136, 157, 161, 193, 224, 276, 282
during car trips, 355
night-weaning and, 177, 180, 183
to relieve nighttime fears, 232–33
White paper technique, 96
Worries, 125. See also Stress