INDEX
abuse
dealing with 201–3
description of 194–5
emotional 200–1
emotional blackmail 185–94
in families 73–6
in friendships 53–6
online 118–20
physical 195–8
sexual 198–9
in sexual attraction 91–2
acceptance
in long-term relationships 216–20
acronyms for online dating 126–30
addictions of partner 178–80
adult children 248–9
Alderson, N. 118
asexuality
description of 30–1
and sexual attraction 95–7
Ashley Madison 137–8
babies 239–41
behaviour
in non-sexual relationships 116–18
at parties 46–9
and sexual attraction 82–5, 89–91
in workplace 41–4
bisexuality
dating 150
description of 28–30
and sexual attraction 102–3
bondage 233–4
boyfriends
description of 56
good relationship with 59–60
sexual relationships with 57–8, 60–1
and sexually transmittable infections 58–9
bullying
in workplace 38
Bumble 134
casual relationships
description of 63–4
example of 64–6
celebrations
and parties 46–9
in workplace 43
Cham, J. 36, 37
changing sexuality 103–5
childlessness, choosing 250–3
children
as adults 248–9
babies 239–41
choosing to have 250–3
effect on relationships 237–9
and homosexual parents 28
infants 243–4
pregnancy 240, 241–3
school aged 244–6
teenagers 246–7
toddlers 243–4
chlamydia 262–4
civil partnerships
description of 68–9
ending 176–7 see also long-term relationships
clothing
and sexual attraction 85–8
Cloud, H. 55
communication
in long-term relationships 209–13
compliments 92–3
compromise
in long-term relationships 216–20
contraception 259–60
crabs 269–70
cyber safety 138–40
dates
deciding against sexual relationships 155–7
moving to from online 159–60
starting 144–52
transition to sexual relationship 152–5
dental dams 258
domination 234
dress codes 86–7
E-Harmony 135–6
Ellis, H. 235
emotional abuse 200–1
emotional blackmail
and ending relationships 185–94
emotions
at end of relationships 180–5
ending relationships
addictions 178–80
civil partnerships 176–7
emotional blackmail 185–94
emotions 180–5
friendships 166–74
marriages 176–7
objectification 185
online 162–3
real-life 163
reasons for 178–203
sexual relationships 174–5
workplace relationships 164–6
escort services 66–7
non-sexual relationships on 118–20
families
abuse in 73–6
advice for 77–8
autism diagnosis in 76–7
relationships with 74
Fausto-Sterling, A. 22
Federal Trade Commission 140
feelings of sexual attraction 89–92
Fifty Shades of Grey 235
foreplay 231–2
Freud, S. 234–5
friendliness 53
friendships
abuse 53–6
benefits of 49
description of 44–5
duration of 40–50
ending 166–74
and friendliness 53
friends with benefits 61–3
good friendships 50–3
pretend friendships
gaslighting
and emotional blackmail 190
in families 74–6
gay see homosexuality
gender
intersex 21–3
and sexuality 9, 24–5
genital herpes 260–2
girlfriends
description of 56
good relationship with 59–60
sexual relationships with 57–8, 60–1
and sexually transmittable infections 58–9
gonorrhoea 266–7
good friendships 50–3
Grindr 135
herpes 260–2
HIV/AIDS 271–5
hepatitis 270–1
heterosexuality
description of 25–6
and sexual attraction 97–9
homeschooling 245–6
homosexuality
civil partnerships 68–9
dating 150
description of 26–8
hook-up apps 135
and one night stands 67–8
and sexual attraction 98, 99–101 see also lesbians
honesty
in long-term relationships 210–11
Hull, C. 22
husbands see spouse
infants 243–4
intersections of relationships 19
intersex
description of 21–3
risks of 107
Kendall, J.C. 195
kindness
in long-term relationships 213–16
Krafft-Ebing, R. von 234
lesbians
civil partnerships 68–9
dating 150
dating sites 136
meeting others 106, 107
and one night stands 67–8
relationships in 27–8
and sexual attraction 98, 99–101 see also homosexuality
long-term relationships, maintaining
acceptance in 216–20
attitudes to money in 205–7, 208
communication in 209–13
compromise in 216–20
honesty in 210–11
kindness in 213–16
living together 204–5
trust in 207–9
marriage
ending 176–7
and relationships 69
and sexual relationships 69–70
sharing responsibilities in 70–1 see also long-term relationships
masturbation 225–8
meeting people 141–4
mental health
in relationships 254–6
mindfulness 182
money
monogamous relationships
for heterosexuals 25–6
for homosexuals 27–8
and marriage 69
non-consensual sex 71–3
non-sexual relationships
behaviour in 116–18
online 118–20 see also friendships
objectification 185
omnisexuality
description of 31
and sexual attraction 102–3
one night stands 66–8
online relationships
abuse on 118–20
cyber safety in 138–40
ending 162–3
moving to real life meeting 159–60
scammers 139–40
non-sexual relationships 118–20
and sexuality 107–8
starting sexual relationships on 123–6
open relationships
for heterosexuals 26
for homosexuals 28
and sexual relationships 113–15
orgasms 112–13
pansexuality
description of 31
and sexual attraction 102–3
parties
expectations at 46–9
partners
description of 68–9
and sexual relationships 69–70
sharing responsibilities with 70–1 see also long-term relationships
physical abuse 195–8
physical health
in relationships 254–6
Pink Sofa 136
Planet Drew 11
polyamorous relationships
for heterosexuals 26
and sexual relationships 113–15
polysexuality
description of 31
prostitution 66–7
Psychopathia Sexualis (Krafft-Ebing) 234
pubic lice 260–70
rape 72–3
relationships
advice for 275–6
for bisexuals 30
boyfriends 56–61
children in 237–49
difficulties with 12
families 73–8
friends with benefits 61–3
girlfriends 56–61
for heterosexuals 25–6
‘hidden curriculum’ of 14
for homosexuals 26–8
intersections of 19
maintaining long-term 204–20
mental health in 254–6
monogamous 25–6
open 26
partners 68–71
physical health in 254–6
polyamorous 26
spouses 68–71
transition to sexual relationship 152–5
in universities 37
in workplace 35–44
Roundsly, C.A. 33
sadomasochism 86, 229–30, 234–5
safe people 55–6
safe sex 257–60
safe words 229–30
scabies 267–9
scammers 139–40
school aged children 244–6
Second Life
and sexual attraction 94–5
starting sexual relationships on 124–5
sex toys 228
sex work 66–7
sexual abuse 198–9
sexual activity
contraception 259–60
description of 221–2
foreplay 231–2
forms of 231–6
masturbation 225–8
pleasures of 109–13
and pornography 222–4
safe sex 257–60
sex toys 228
sexual attraction
and abuse 91–2
advice for 88
and asexuality 95–7
bisexuality 102–3
and clothing 85–8
description of 80–2
feelings of 89–92
flirting 83–5
heterosexuality 97–9
homosexuality 98, 99–101
ominsexuality 102–3
pansexuality 102
talking 92–5
sexual difficulties 157–8
sexual relationships
boyfriends 56–61
casual relationships 63–6
deciding against 155–7
and emotions 73
ending 174–5
forms of 19–20
friends with benefits 61–3
girlfriends 56–61
meeting people to start 141–4
non-consensual 71–3
one night stands 66–8
partners 69–70
spouses 69–70
transition to 152–5
in the workplace 35–6
sexuality
asexuality 30–1
bisexuality 28–30
changing 103–5
cultural acceptance of 79–80, 100
definition of 19
discovering other people’s 106–8
and gender 9, 24–5
heterosexuality 25–6
homosexuality 26–8
omnisexuality 31
pansexuality 31
polysexuality 31
and sexual attraction 80–2
transsexuality 32–4
sexually transmittable infections (STIs)
chlamydia 262–4
and condoms 257–9
crabs 269–70
genital herpes 260–2
gonorrhoea 266–7
hepatitis 270–1
HIV/AIDS 271–5
pubic lice 269–70
scabies 267–9
syphilis 264–6
socializing
at parties 48–9
in workplace 40–1
speed dating 146–7
spouses
description of 68–9
and sexual relationships 69–70
sharing responsibilities with 70–1 see also long-term relationships
Stien, P. 195
Studies in the Psychology of Sex (Ellis) 235
syphilis 264–6
talking
and sexual attraction 92–5
teenagers 246–7
texting 72
Tinder 133–4
toddlers 243–4
Townsend, J. 55
transition to sexual relationship 152–5
transsexuality
description of 32–4
risks of 107
True Selves (Roundsly) 33
trust
in long-term relationships 207–9
universities
parties at 46
relationships in 37
unsafe people 55–6
videoing sexual activity 72
virginity 109–10
wives see spouse
workplace relationships
advice for 43–4
behaviours in 41–4
celebrations 43
at conferences 42–3
ending 164–6
problems with 37–9
and sexual relationships 35–6
social interactions 40–1
socializing 40–1
understanding autism 39–40
work events 41–4
Zhang, Y. 82