Contents

Introduction

1.   Competence Starts with Feeling Competent

2.   It’s Not How Hard You Try

3.   Creativity Comes from Within

4.   Take Small Victories

5.   You Can’t Force Yourself to Like Broccoli

6.   Resist the Urge to Be Average

7.   There Is Plenty of Time

8.   It’s Never Just One Thing

9.   Don’t Keep Fighting Your First Battle

10.   Change Is Possible, Not Easy

11.   Seek Input from Your Opposites

12.   Write Down the Directions

13.   Anticipate Irrationality

14.   The Best Defense Is to Listen

15.   Winners Are Made, Not Born

16.   Do Things in Order

17.   Get Experience Any Way You Can

18.   Self-Motivation Works Once

19.   Speak Slowly

20.   Where You Stand Depends on Where You Look

21.   Use Your Own Self-Interest

22.   Remember Who You Are and Where You Are

23.   Negotiate with Confidence, or Don’t

24.   Volunteer to Feel Better

25.   Remember the Task, Forget the Rankings

26.   Avoid the Second-Guess Paralysis

27.   Seek a Tall Plateau, Not the Peak

28.   Play the Odds

29.   The Past Is Not the Future

30.   Get a Good Night’s Sleep

31.   It Starts and Ends with You

32.   Notice Patterns

33.   Efficiency in Everything

34.   Tomorrow Will Be a Better Day (But How Exactly?)

35.   Lessons Can’t Threaten

36.   Success Is Formula, Not Fantasy

37.   You Need to Know More Than Just How Talented You Are

38.   Role Models Are Not One Size Fits All

39.   Learn from Losses

40.   Embrace Work; It May Have to Last Forever

41.   Exercise and Eat Right

42.   Boredom Is the Enemy

43.   Be Clear About Your Role in the Outcome

44.   Make Change Count

45.   Listening Is More Than Not Talking

46.   Take Off Your Blinders

47.   You’ll Get What You’re Afraid Of

48.   Think About Who You Ought to Be

49.   Leadership Is Contagious

50.   Want Support? Deserve It

51.   You Will Give Up Faster if You’re Not in Control

52.   Life Is Not a Zero-Sum Game

53.   You Don’t Have to Get Straight A’s Anymore

54.   Whet Your Appetite for Success

55.   Remember the Difference Between You and Everybody Else

56.   Your Work and Home Lives Must Fit Together

57.   Nobody Wins Without a Loser

58.   Tell Clean Jokes

59.   Don’t Want Everything

60.   Look for Value

61.   Get Your Motivation Where You Can Find It

62.   Be an Expert

63.   Failure Is Not Trying

64.   You Are Not in This Alone

65.   Your Goals Are a Living Thing

66.   Avoid Roller-Coaster Emotions

67.   Care

68.   You Can’t Be Persistent Without Perspective

69.   Changing Jobs Doesn’t Change You

70.   It Might Get Worse Before It Gets Better

71.   If You Don’t Believe, No One Else Will

72.   You’ll Work Harder If You Feel Wanted

73.   Don’t Talk to Yourself

74.   Seek Coherence and Congruence

75.   If You Doubt, You’re Out

76.   Always Think About What’s Next

77.   Value Practical Knowledge

78.   See the Risk in Doing Nothing

79.   Face Conflict Head-On

80.   Money Isn’t Everything

81.   Be Realistic About Yourself

82.   Find Your Own Path

83.   Own What You Do

84.   Be Honest for Your Future

85.   You Need to Know What You Are Looking For

86.   Don’t Forget Packaging

87.   Learn to Lead Yourself

88.   A Victory at All Costs Is Not a Victory

89.   People Who Have It Right Work Harder to Make It Better

90.   Don’t Run in the Wrong Direction Just Because You’re Near the Finish Line

91.   Hope Springs Internal

92.   Think as if Others Can Read Your Mind

93.   You’ll Get Knocked Down and Then Get Back Up

94.   Keep Your Goals Where You Can See Them

95.   Don’t Settle

96.   What Is the Point?

97.   Win Your Own Respect First

98.   Your Goals Must Engage All of You

99.   Take Action

100.   Only You Can Say if This Is a World You Can Succeed In

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