Notes
1 The four seasons of marriage refer to the “climate” within a marriage relationship, not the “season of life” a couple is in or the literal season in which they were married. As I explain in my book The Four Seasons of Marriage, the natural seasons of the year provide us with an apt analogy for the changes that occur in a marriage relationship.
2 Dorothy Tennov, Love and Limerence (New York: Stein and Day, 1979), 142.
3 Ecclesiastes 4:9.
4 Author’s paraphrase of Matthew 7:3-5.
5 Psalm 139:23-24, NLT.
6 1 John 1:9.
7 For more information on the topic of rebuilding trust, see Gary D. Chapman, The Five Languages of Apology (Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 2006).
8 Ollie Jones, “Love Makes the World Go Round,” 1958.
9 Gary D. Chapman, The Five Love Languages (Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 1992, 1995, 2004).
10 Richard M. Sherman and Robert B. Sherman, “A Spoonful of Sugar,” from the movie Mary Poppins.
11 See 1 Peter 4:8.
12 Luke 12:15.
13 1 Timothy 6:10.
14 Genesis 1:28.
15 Genesis 2:15.
16 Exodus 20:8-10.
17 William J. Bennett, The Book of Virtues (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1993), 347.
18 Proverbs 13:19.
19 As quoted in George Sweeting, Who Said That? (Chicago: Moody Publishers, 1995), 452.
20 1 Timothy 5:8.
21 8. Proverbs 6:6-11.
22 Proverbs 13:4.
23 2 Thessalonians 3:10-12.
24 Colossians 3:23-24.
25 James 1:17.
26 C. S. Lewis, Mere Christianity (New York: McMillan, 1952), 180.
27 James 1:5.
28 R. G. LeTourneau, Mover of Men and Mountains (Chicago: Moody Publishers, 1972), 263.
29 Matthew 6:25-33.
30 Philippians 4:6-7.
31 Matthew 6:24.
32 Joshua 1:8-9.
33 Joshua 24:15.
34 Leviticus 27:30, 32, 34.
35 Malachi 3:8-12.
36 Matthew 23:23.
37 Luke 6:38.
38 2 Corinthians 9:6-8.
39 Proverbs 3:9-10.
40 Philippians 4:18-19.
41 R. G. LeTourneau, Mover of Men and Mountains, 280.
42 1 John 3:17-18.
43 Proverbs 22:3, TLB.
44 Luke 14:28-30.
45 Genesis 41:34-36.
46 Proverbs 21:20.
47 Proverbs 6:6-8.
48 Carolyn Pape Cowan and Philip A. Cowan, When Partners Become Parents (HarperCollins, 1992), 109.
49 Ibid., 89.
50 Genesis 1:28.
51 Genesis 2:24.
52 Alice Gray, comp., Stories for a Mom’s Heart (Sisters, Ore.: Multnomah, 2002), 29.
53 Jimmy Van Heusen and Sammy Cahn, “Love and Marriage,” copyright 1955 by Barton Music Corp./Warner Chappell Music, Inc.
54 For more information on the four-seasons concept, you may wish to read The Four Seasons of Marriage, by Gary Chapman (Carol Stream, Ill.: Tyndale House, 2005).
55 MSN Money staff, “Raising Your Quarter-Million-Dollar Baby,” located at http://moneycentral.msn.com/content/collegeandfamily/raisekids/p37245.asp.
56 For more information on the love-languages concept, you may wish to read The Five Love Languages of Children, written by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell (Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 1997).
57 For further help in how to apologize successfully, you may wish to read The Five Languages of Apology, by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas (Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 2006).
58 Ephesians 5:25.
59 Ephesians 5:33.
60 Linda J. Waite and Maggie Gallagher, The Case for Marriage (New York: Doubleday, 2000), 79.
61 Genesis 2:18-25.
62 Genesis 1:28.
63 Waite and Gallagher, 124–140.
64 Song of Songs 4:9-11, 15-16.
65 Song of Songs 5:10-11, 13-16.
66 Deuteronomy 24:5, NLT.
67 Kevin Leman, Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage (Carol Stream, Ill.: Tyndale House, 2003), 103.
68 Ibid.
69 See Ephesians 5:25.
70 1 John 4:19, NKJV.
71 Song of Songs 4:1-7.
72 Song of Songs 4:16.
73 Song of Songs 5:1.
74 Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate (Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 1992, 1995).
75 1 Corinthians 8:1, NKJV.
76 Proverbs 18:21.
77 1 John 1:9.
78 See Ephesians 4:32.
79 Romans 5:8.
80 Romans 5:5.
81 Genesis 2:24; see Ephesians 5:31.
82 Exodus 20:12; see Deuteronomy 5:16.
83 Ephesians 6:2-3.
84 1 Timothy 5:4.
85 1 Timothy 5:8.
86 The New Webster’s Pocket Dictionary (New York: Lexicon Publications, Inc.), 1990.
87 Exodus 20:12; see Ephesians 6:2.
88 See 2 Corinthians 6:14-15.
89 See Proverbs 11:14.
90 Exodus 18:17-19.
91 See Exodus 18:22.
92 1 Corinthians 13:5, NLT.
93 John 6:66-69, NLT.
94 Matthew 7:7-11, NLT.
95 Acts 20:35.
96 Acts 20:35.
97 See Matthew 5:43-44.
98 See 1 John 4:19, NLT.
99 See 1 Corinthians 13:4, NLT.
100 Proverbs 15:1.