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COVER
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
INTRODUCTION
A DIALOGUE REQUIRES A BACK AND FORTH VERBAL EXCHANGE
FACE‐TO‐FACE IS ALWAYS BEST
LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION
STEER THE CONVERSATION
SAY WHAT YOU NEED TO SAY
AVOID, ABSORB, AND DEFLECT ANGER
TAILOR YOUR APPROACH BASED ON DEMOGRAPHICS
MAKE SURE YOUR COMMUNICATION IS MULTICULTURAL AND GENDER NEUTRAL
A FINAL THOUGHT
I: Lifescripts
1 Meeting Your New Supervisor
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
2 Asking Your Supervisor for a Raise Outside of the Annual Review Process
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
3 Having Your Pay Cut
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
4 Asking Your Supervisor for a Salary Advance
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
5 Asking Your Supervisor for a Promotion
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
6 Asking Your Supervisor for Help with Your Workload
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
7 Asking Your Supervisor to Be Involved in Projects That Provide Greater Exposure
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
8 Asking Your Supervisor for Time to Shadow in Other Departments
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
9 Asking Your Supervisor for More Responsibilities
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
10 Your Responsibilities Are Increased, but Not Your Pay
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
11 Turning Down an Assignment
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
12 Asking Your Supervisor for Relief from a Project
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
13 Asking Your Supervisor for a Deadline Extension
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
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14 Asking Your Supervisor for a Transfer
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
15 Asking Your Supervisor for More Staff
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
16 Your Staff Is Cut
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
17 Asking Your Supervisor for a Budget Increase
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
18 Your Budget Is Cut
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
19 Going over Your Supervisor's Head
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
20 Asking Your Supervisor If You Can Work from Home
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
21 Asking Your Supervisor for a Schedule Adjustment to Accommodate School
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
22 Asking Your Supervisor for Clearer Directions
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
23 Asking Your Supervisor to Stop Micromanaging
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
24 Breaking Bad News to Your Supervisor
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
25 Explaining Rapid Staff Turnover to Your Supervisor
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
26 Warning Your Supervisor of a Potential Client or Customer Problem
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
27 Warning Your Supervisor of a Potential Vendor or Supplier Problem
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
28 Apologizing for a Misdirected Email to Your Supervisor
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
29 Defending an Expense Report to Your Supervisor
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
30 Defending Your Own Performance from Criticism
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
31 Putting an End to Verbal Abuse from Your Supervisor
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
32 Putting an End to Unjust Criticism from Your Supervisor
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
33 You're a Company Icon Being Terminated
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
34 You're Terminated by a Friend
STRATEGY
TACTICS
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KEY POINTS
35 You're Terminated When Close to Retirement
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TACTICS
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36 You're Terminated When You Have a Personal Burden
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TACTICS
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37 You're Terminated, but Are Asked to Remain Available
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KEY POINTS
38 You're Asked to Become a Part‐Time Employee
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
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39 Asking Your Supervisor for a Job Recommendation
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
40 Negotiating Severance with Your Supervisor
STRATEGY
TACTICS
KEY POINTS
41 Giving Notice to Your Supervisor
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
II: Lifescripts
42 Meeting Your New Staff
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
43 Responding to a Direct Report's Raise Request
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TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
44 Responding to a Direct Report's Promotion Request
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TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
45 Responding to a Direct Report's Request for Time Off
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TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
46 Responding to a Direct Report's Request to Hire Their Child
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TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
47 Denying a Direct Report's Vacation Request
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TACTICS
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48 Responding to a Direct Report's Request for a Schedule Adjustment
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TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
49 Insisting on a More Positive Attitude from a Direct Report
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
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50 Insisting a Direct Report Show More Awareness of Ethical Issues
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51 Insisting a Direct Report Show More Respect for Diversity Efforts
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52 Insisting a Direct Report Improve Their Appearance
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53 Insisting on Better Hygiene from a Direct Report
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54 Putting an End to a Direct Report's Personal Telephone and Internet Use
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55 Dealing with a Direct Report's Repeated Lateness
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56 Putting an End to a Direct Report's Procrastination
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57 Correcting Repeated Mistakes by a Direct Report
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58 Insisting a Direct Report Improve Their Voice Manners
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59 Putting an End to a Direct Report's Personal Use of Equipment
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60 Requesting Better Meeting Manners from a Direct Report
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61 Dealing with Criticism a Direct Report Posts on Social Networking Platforms
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62 Questioning a Direct Report's Expenses
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ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
63 Delivering a Critical Performance Review to a Direct Report
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64 Reducing the Size of a Direct Report's Staff
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TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
65 Reducing the Size of a Direct Report's Workspace
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TACTICS
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66 Apologizing to a Direct Report for Your Own Behavior
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67 Apologizing to a Direct Report for Unintended Gender Insensitivity
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TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
68 Apologizing to a Direct Report for Unintended Cultural Insensitivity
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69 Extending a Direct Report's Responsibilities Without Increasing Their Pay
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TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
70 Increasing an Entire Staff's Hours but Not Their Pay
STRATEGY
TACTICS
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KEY POINTS
71 Turning a Full‐TimeDirect Report into a Part‐Timer
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TACTICS
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72 Cutting an Entire Staff's Pay
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
73 Cutting an Individual Direct Report's Pay
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TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
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74 Sending a Voluntary Termination Hint to a Direct Report
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
75 Terminating aFriend
STRATEGY
TACTICS
ADAPTATIONS
KEY POINTS
III: Lifescripts
76 Tattling on a Peer to Your Supervisor
STRATEGY
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KEY POINTS
77 Telling Your Supervisor That Someone Else Took Credit for Your Idea
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78 Asking Your Supervisor for Help with a Problem Peer
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KEY POINTS
79 Asking Your Supervisor to Help When Another Department Oversteps Their Bounds
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80 Suggesting Less Drinking to a Coworker
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81 Putting an End to Backstabbing by Direct Reports
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82 Putting an End to Harassment by a Coworker
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KEY POINTS
83 Putting an End to a Direct Report's Gossiping
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84 Putting an End to a Direct Report's Brownnosing
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85 Putting an End to a Direct Report's Flirting
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86 Suggesting BetterHygiene to aCoworker
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87 Putting an End to aCoworker's ChronicInterruptions
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88 Putting an Endto a Coworker's Dishonest Behavior
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89 Asking a Coworker to Treat Your Staff with More Respect
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90 Asking a Coworker to Stop Backstabbing
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KEY POINTS
91 Refusing to Lie for a Coworker
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92 Putting an End to a Coworker's Romantic Overtures
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93 Asking a Coworker to Stop Gossiping
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94 Asking a Coworker to Come in Earlier and/or Stay Later
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95 Asking a Coworker to Improve the Quality of Their Work
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96 Correcting a Coworker's Mistakes
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97 Putting an End to a Coworker's Pilfering
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98 Asking a Coworker to Accelerate Their Work
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99 Asking a Coworker to Redo Their Work
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100 Requesting Better Meeting Manners from a Coworker
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101 Deflecting a Coworker's Probes for Personal Information
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102 Asking a Coworker to Stay Within the Bounds of Their Role
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103 Asking a Coworker to Cover for You
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104 Asking a Coworker to Switch Vacations with You
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105 Apologizing to a Coworker for a Misdirected Email
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106 Apologizing to a Coworker for Unintended Gender Insensitivity
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107 Apologizing to a Coworker for Unintended Cultural Insensitivity
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108 Helping a Coworker Set More Realistic Goals
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109 Telling a Coworker Their Job May Be in Danger
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