INDEX

A

accidents

apology for, 26–29

efforts to avoid, 209–210

adults, talking and listening to, 46–49

age, and introductions, 19

airplane travel, 147–151

airport security, 148

allergies, 65–68, 172

answering machine, leaving message on, 102

answering phone, 97–98

apology

accepting, 30–33

“excuse me” as, 9

making, 26–29

attention, “excuse me” to get, 10–11

audience, being part of, 138–142

B

bathrooms, 215

sharing space, 166

use as houseguest, 206, 207

bedrooms, sharing space, 214

belching, 9

birthdays, 79

blame for loss, 137

blessing before meal, 55

body lotion, 161

borrowing clothes, 42–45

borrowing item, asking permission, 35

boundaries, 212–215

boys

dating, 199–203

invitation to dance from, 195

buffet, serving yourself from, 52

“but,” avoiding in apology, 27

butter knife, 61

C

car, entering and exiting, 180–183

cell phones, 103–108, 142, 146

chair, help being seated, 185

chewing gum, 141, 146

closed doors, 213

clothes, 152–155

for air travel, 150

spills on, 170

for worship, 144, 146

coat, help with, 185

coat checkroom, 185–186

cologne, 163

communion, 145

compliments

accepting, 23–25

paying, 20–22

“thank you” for, 5–6

computer, 109–113

contests, losing, 134–137

conversation with adults, 46–49

cosmetics, 156–160

cotillion, 193–194

courtesies, accepting, 184–187

crossing legs when sitting, 174–175

curfew, 37

D

dance, invitations to, 193–198

dating, 199–203

dining in restaurant, 69–73

dinner guest behavior, 51–55

place setting, 60–64

dinner table, cell phone and, 107

disappointment, acknowledging, 93–94

door, holding for others, 77

E

eau de cologne, 162

eau de toilette, 162

elevator, 77

e-mail address, 111

e-mails, 111–113

emergencies, personal, 168–172

entering car, 180–183

escalator, 75

exaggeration, 22

excuse, for mistakes, vs. apology, 28

“excuse me,” 8–11, 76, 139

when leaving dinner table, 54

exiting car, 180–183

eye contact, 50

in introductions, 13, 15

with “thank you,” 7

F

Facebook, 114–120, 202

photos on, 118–119

face-to-face conversation, and cell phone use, 107

family members

saying “thank you” to, 5

treatment of, 2

family style meal, 52

favors, asking for, 38–41

feminine hygiene products, 171

fingers, licking, 57–58

first impressions, 12

food allergies and dislikes, 65–68

forgiveness, 32

forks, 61

Fortnightly, 193–194

fragrance, 161–164

friend requests, 116

G

games, losing, 134–137

gifts

accepting, 82–85

choosing and giving, 78–81

as houseguest, 205

gossip, 126–129

grooming, personal, 165–168

grudges, 33

guests, being good hostess for, 208–211

H

hair coloring, 166–167

hairbrushes, 44

hallways, public, 74–77

heels, practice wearing, 177–178

help

offer for clearing table, 54–55

offer when exiting car, 181–182

receiving, 184–187

helping others, 216–219

hostess, 208–211

houseguest, 204–207

I

identification, 172

“I’m sorry,” 26–29

Internet, 110–111

social networks, 114–120

interruption, 48

“excuse me” for, 10

introductions, 12–15

by hostess, 209

making, 16–19

invitations

from boy, 200

to dance, 193–198

responding to, 188–192

K

knives, 61

L

licking fingers, 57–58

lies, 201

lipstick, 59

listening, 95

to adults, 46–49

losing graciously, 134–137

M

makeup, 44, 156–160

messages from phone calls, 97–102

mistakes, apology for, 26–29

movie theaters, 138–139

N

nail polish, 168

napkin, 56–59

“no” as answer when asking permission, 36

O

odors, 150

overflattering, 53

P

parents, introducing friends to, 17

passing food around table, 52

performance, being part of audience, 138–142

perfume, 150, 162–164

period, planning for, 171

permission, asking, 34–37

personal emergencies, 168–172

personal grooming, 165–168

personal information, in introductions, 18

personal space, 212–215

pet, death of, 94

photos, 121–125

on Facebook, 118–119

of religious ceremonies, 124

physical challenges, offering help to people with, 218

piercings, 166–167

place setting, 60–64

“please,” 1–3

posture

when sitting, 173–175

when walking, 176–183

prayer before meal, 55

price, and meal selection from menu, 70–71

privacy, 212–215

photos and, 122–123

on social networks, 115

public staircases and halls, 74–77

purse, 187

R

radio station, permission to change, 37

“regrets only” invitation, 189–190

religious ceremonies, 143–146

photos of, 124

requests, “please” when making, 1–3

respect, for older people, 13

responding to invitations, 188–192

restaurant

cell phone and, 107

dining in, 69–73

restroom, 141

ringer of cell phone, turning off, 105

ringtone, 108

RSVP, 190–191

rumors, 127

S

safety pins, 170–171

school assignments, favors and, 38

secrets, 126–129

shaking hands, 13

shoes, 177

siblings, asking favor of, 39

sincerity, in compliments, 21

sitting, 173–175

skin care, 157

slumber party, 130–133, 162

social networks, 114–120

spoons, 61

staircases, public, 74–77

stepping on toes, 196

sunscreen, 160

sympathy expression, 92–96

T

taking advantage, vs. favor, 39

talking to adults, 46–49

telephones, 97–102

cell phones, 103–108

texting, 48, 103–108, 199

“thank you,” 4–7, 187

at end of date, 203

for favors, 41

for gift, 83

for offer of help, 184–185

as reply to compliment, 24

after slumber party, 131–132

thank-you note

after being houseguest, 207

examples, 90–91

writing, 86–91

tips

for coat checkroom, 186

for restaurant staff, 73

travel on plane, 147–151

tweets, 119

Twitter wars, 120

U

underwear, 44

uppercase letters, in e-mail, 112

utensils, 61, 64

V

vegetarian, 68

volunteering, 216–219

clothes for, 153

W

walking, 176–183

water glass, 62

wrapping gifts, 80