The Anal Sex Position Guide (Tristan Taormino), 271–272
Ananga Ranga (Indian love manual), 194
The Art of Arousal (Ruth Westheimer), 327
Basson, Rosemary, 320
Bend Over Boyfriend (video series), 287
Body Heat (movie), 363
Bonaparte, Marie, 398
Borg, Sonia, 123, 158, 174, 404
Bull Durham (movie), 379
Chua Chee Ann (sexologist), 310
cunnilingus
“69” with alternating tongues, 214
“69” with hand moves, 428–429
A-frame technique, 55
analingus, 48
champagne and, 254
communication and, 420
cunnilingus quickies, 332
dirty talk, 46
Edge of the Chair position, 388
erotic book project, 303–304
figure-eight lick, 246
finger vibe quickies, 84
fire escape CJ, 372
Flame technique, 207
G-spot stimulation, 38
hand moves and, 198
ice cream cone technique, 214
Lying Between Legs position, 388
L-shaped position, 93–94
On Your Knees position, 388
“pussy communication,” 129, 131
Right Angle position, 388
rock ‘n’ roll technique, 142
rooftop CJ, 285
sequential orgasms, 207
serial orgasms, 240
“she comes first” rut, 412
Sitting on Face position, 388
sunroof CJ, 316
teasing and, 39
tongue writing, 230
“tut-tut” sound and, 292
The Velvet “No,” 26
“whisky dick” technique, 30
Dean, Louise, 179
Diaz, Richard Anton, 317
Dirty Dancing (movie), 368
Dodson, Betty, 200
The English Patient (movie), 371
ejaculation. See orgasms, his.
Expert Guide to Threesomes (Tristan Taormino), 96
fantasies
“affair” quickies, 149
appointment fantasies, 40
boss/employee fantasies, 302–303, 311
cops/robbers fantasies, 213
exploring, 318
fairy-tale versions of, 28, 312
favorite fantasies, 197
golden rules of, 334
maid/master fantasies, 127–128
misconceptions, 318
nurse/patient fantasies, 193–194
“overtaken” fantasies, 351
prostitution fantasies, 176–177, 245, 253
porn star fantasies, 160
Roman orgy-for-two, 65
scripts, 334
SM fantasies, 342–343
Fawcett, Farrah, 56
fellatio
“69” with alternating tongues, 214
“69” with hand moves, 428–429
2,000-Year-Old BJ technique, 82
Altoids and, 222
analingus, 88
A-OK technique, 158
Bend-Over BJ position, 324
Butterfly Throat technique, 85
Catherine the Great technique, 54
chakra #5 and, 139
Cleopatra’s Cobra BJ, 118–119
corona stimulation, 70, 110, 270
deep sucking, 110
Edge of the Chair position, 388
ejaculation signs, 126
Elizabeth I’s Sir Walter Raleigh Special, 395–396
erotic book project, 303–304
faux deep throat techniques, 102, 158, 175, 404
fire-escape BJ, 364
“freak-on” talks, 112
frenulum strumming, 262
gag prevention, 110
golf cart fellatio, 308
G-spot stimulation, 126
heartbeat and, 301
large penis size, 174–175
Lollipop Lick technique, 214
long and skinny penis size, 158
“Make Him Come” BJ, 356
masturbation during, 54
Napoleonic BJ technique, 239
New Silken Swirl technique, 22, 26
nibbling and, 166
no-touch BJ, 348
On Your Knees position, 388
“pearl necklace” ejaculation, 390, 399
Penis Whisperer technique, 123
perineum stimulation and, 191, 206
prostitution fantasies, 245
Right Angle position, 388
Ring and Seal technique, 102, 125, 158, 404
rock ‘n’ roll technique, 150
rooftop BJ, 278
semen flavor, 79
semi-erect penis technique, 191
short and fat penis size, 166
Sitting on Face position, 388
spiritual BJ, 203
standard penis size, 182
swallowing, 125–126
tea bagging, 133–134
tree house BJ, 379–380
flirtation and foreplay
armpit licking, 220
ass-slapping, 20
back-to-back snuggling, 84
breast stroke, 362
calligraphy brush strokes, 209
chest rubs, 284
cuddling, 244
desire as, 433
double entendres, 76
erotic literature and, 148, 418
eyelid kissing, 386
extended foreplay, 171
flower strokes, 402
heart touch, 204
instep-licking, 290
“irresistibility,” 236
lingerie, 132
lip-licking, 370
lip-pulse kissing, 338
meeting as strangers, 108
mental foreplay, 306
neck-blowing, 322
nuzzling, 36
palm-kissing, 252
“panties in the pocket,” 116
pelvic thrust hug, 346
penis push-ups, 164
playing footsies, 426
“presidential cigar,” 410
scalp massages, 314
seducing the nipple, 52
sex journals, 228
sexy suggestions, 306
simultaneous orgasms and, 258
Spider Walk technique, 156
temple massage, 378
thigh-high kissing, 60
toenail-painting, 124
“wet look,” 330
whispered compliments, 298
foreplay. See flirtation and foreplay.
“freaky” sex
anal fingering, 241
anal intercourse, 255–256, 271–272
anal toys, 248–249
BDSM, 121, 135–136, 144, 225, 342–343
body painting, 152
boss/employee fantasy, 302–303, 311
breast intercourse, 168
costume boxes, 184
cuddle parties, 359
definition of “normal,” 423
“edge play,” 208
ejaculating on breasts, 390, 399
fantasy exploration, 318
fantasy scripts, 334
female ejaculation, 216
floggers, 105
“freak-on” talks, 112
frequency of sex, 407
prostitution fantasies, 176–177
Honey Dust, 232
imaginary threesome fantasies, 96
laughter, 264–265
light bondage, 225
maid/master fantasies, 127–128
nurse/patient fantasies, 193–194
“overtaken” fantasies, 351
porn star fantasies, 160
private sex life, 281
prostitution fantasies, 176–177, 245, 253
Roman orgy-for-two, 65
Second Life Web site, 430
spanking, 25
strip poker, 414
submission/domination, 144
“thinking yourself off,” 325–326
truth or dare, 381–382
From Prospect Park West (Amy Sohn), 402
Gibran, Khalil, 328
G-spots
anal orgasms and, 88
female, 38, 66, 84, 103, 216, 231
female ejaculation and, 216
as “hot spot,” 103, 111
male, 66, 88, 111, 126, 364–365
research on, 231
Hartley, Nina, 248
Hopkins, Martha, 68
Huang Ti, 122
The Idea of Love (Louise Dean), 179
InterCourses: An Aphrodisiac Cookbook (Martha Hopkins and Randall Lockridge), 68, 77
Johnson, Virginia, 208
Kegel exercises, 50, 74, 143, 164, 215, 353
Kerner, Ian, 412
Kinsey, Alfred, 332
Lockridge, Randall, 68
Masters, William, 208
Mihalko, Reid, 359
Morin, Jack, 328
Myers, Dana, 165
al-Nafzawi, Umar ibn Muhammad, 34, 170
Ogden, Gina, 157
oral sex. See cunnilingus; fellatio.
orgasms, hers
alternating, 294
arousal visualization, 324–325
Backward Lean position, 255
blended orgasms, 263
clitoral stimulation and, 22–23, 167, 358, 398
compound single orgasms, 71
control of, 420–421
C-spot, 102–103
C-V distance, 398
during intercourse, 341–342
exhibitionary masturbation, 192
extended, 420–421
eyes open/eyes closed, 380–381
faking, 420
Flying V technique, 341
fMRI studies, 80
Folded Deck Chair position, 340
G-spot, 38, 66, 84, 103, 216, 231
Kegel exercises and, 143
Magic of Ten, 389
masturbation and, 372–373
mind-set and, 86
missionary positions, 126–127, 151, 175
multi-position orgasm, 405
Orgasmic Providing, 317
Orgasm Loop, 167, 324–325, 326
orgasm stories, 429
painting, 56
pressure orgasms, 200
rear-entry position, 247
rear-entry standing position, 159
sensuous orgasm, 302
sequential, 207
serial orgasms, 240
sex without orgasms, 350
“she comes first” rut, 412
side-by-side position, 134–135
simultaneous orgasms, 250, 258, 266
soul triggers, 234
surprise orgasms, 278–279
Tantra orgasms, 424
teasing and, 39
Ultimate Lap Dance, 119
U-spot, 103
Venus Butterfly technique, 31
Vibrating Massage with Happy Ending, 94–95
washer/dryer and, 414
woman-on-top position, 63, 119
orgasms, his
alternating, 294
anal orgasms, 88
Butterfly Quiver technique, 145
controlling, 420–421
delaying, 26, 41, 57, 74, 215, 283
extended, 420–421
F-spot, 111
hot spots, his, 111
H-spot, 111
Magic of Ten, 389
“Make Him Come” BJ, 356
missionary positions, 126–127, 151, 175
multiple, 222–223
multi-position orgasms, 405
orgasm stories, 429
P zone, 111
rear-entry position, 247
rear-entry standing position, 159
R area, 111
“she comes first” rut, 412
side-by-side position, 134–135
simultaneous orgasms, 250, 258, 266
soul triggers, 234
Tantra orgasm, 424
Ultimate Lap Dance, 119
Vibrating Massage with Happy Ending, 94–95
Paget, Lou, 102, 158, 183, 364, 404, 424
The Perfumed Garden (Sheik Umar ibn Muhammad al-Nafzawi), 34, 41
positions
“69” with alternating tongues, 214
“69” with hand moves, 428–429
anal intercourse, 271–272
Backward Lean, 255
Bend-Over BJ, 324
Cavalier on Horseback, 34
Cicadas Mating, 242
Closer Missionary, 243
Contrary, 273
Deep Waters Rear-Entry, 296
Dragon in Flight, 249–250
Edge of the Chair, 388
female superior, 261, 272, 313
Folded Deck Chair, 340
Full Flat Female Superior position, 313
Fusion Tantra, 117
Kneeling Man, 265
Laziest Tantra, 288
legs-in-the-air, 161
L-shaped position, 93–94
Lying Between Legs, 388
Manner of the Bull, 170
missionary, 126–127, 151, 175, 243, 272
Moving Sit, 391
multi-position orgasms, 405
On Your Knees, 388
Passion Flower, 369
penis “fall-out,” 50
rear-entry standing, 159
Right Angle, 388
Seducer, 114
Short Penis, 41
Shy Reverse Cowgirl, 63
side-by-side, 134–135
Sitting on Face, 388
Slow Spoon, 146
Splitting the Bamboo, 282
standing, 101
Swinging Monkey, 138
Tiger in the Forest, 233
Wedding Night, 400
Wide-Leg, 202
Yab-Yum, 361
The Prophet (Khalil Gibran), 328
quickies
“affair” fantasy, 149
bathroom nozzle quickie, 269
Bend-Over Cross quickie, 331
blindfold quickie, 221
Body Heat quickie, 363
bondage tape and, 37
Bull Durham quickie, 379
come-from-behind hand-job quickie, 419
communication and, 238
cops/robbers fantasy, 213
Cowgirl Vibrating quickie, 347
cunnilingus quickie, 332
edge-of-the-bed quickie, 300
English Patient quickie, 371
favorite fantasies and, 197
finger vibe quickie, 84
five-minute quickie, 307
Fusion Tantra technique, 117
good-bye quickie, 427
hand-job quickies, 45, 53, 165, 183, 339
Head-of-the-Penis technique, 261
kits, 229
Light-His-Fire quickie, 165
meeting as strangers, 109
mental foreplay, 20–21, 125, 157
morning quickie, 61
mutual masturbation, 141
Naked Chef quickie, 77
New Kitchen Counter quickie, 189
No-Panties-Day quickie, 355
“Not in the Mood” quickie, 132–133
prostitution fantasies, 245, 253
Red Heels quickie, 290–291
remote-control quickie, 403
rough touch quickie, 395
scent quickie, 411
seven-minute quickie, 315
sit-down quickie, 29
small vibrators and, 173
standing position, 101
taking charge, 29
ten-minute quickie, 323
toilet seat quickie, 277
types of, 69
Unfaithful quickie, 387
vibrating cock rings and, 92–93
voyeurism and, 205
wardrobe considerations, 284–285
wish lists, 69
Ramsdale, David, 424
The Science of Orgasm (Barry Komisaruk), 80
sex education
Ananga Ranga, 194–195
art of sex, 327
belly dancing, 360
Butterfly Quiver technique, 145
Cicadas Mating position, 242
Claiming Pleasure Manifesto, 320
classic porn, 382–383
Contrary position, 273
cross-dressing, 415
curriculum planning, 431
Deep Waters Rear-Entry position, 296
Desire Curve, 177–178, 336–337, 344
dirty dancing, 368
Dragon in Flight position, 249–250
Kneeling Man position, 265
Laziest Tantra position, 288
legs-in-the-air position, 161
Manner of the Bull position, 170
Moving Sit position, 391
New Relationship Euphoria (NREU), 336–337, 344
online porn, 408
Parisian gigolo’s kiss, 153
penis “fall-out,” 50
pole dancing, 352
scratching and biting, 194–195
Shunga sexuality, 217
signature move modifications, 226
silk and sake, 209
Splitting the Bamboo position, 282
Supreme Love Gift, 312
Swinging Monkey position, 138
Tango lessons, 375
Tantra orgasms, 424
Taoist pillow books, 122
Taoist sex, 128–129
Tiger in the Forest position, 233
tip-of-the-tongue kissing, 26
vaginal exploration, 106
Wedding Night position, 400
White Nightgown sex, 257
Wide-Leg position, 202
yin and yang, 415
Silverberg, Corey, 389
Sohn, Amy, 402
The Soul of Sex (Thomas Moore), 376
spirituality
chakras, 139
Closer Missionary position, 243
cock communication, 122–123
expanded orgasms, 51, 154, 218
extended foreplay, 171
extra-genital orgasms, 90
Full Flat Female Superior position, 313
gender roles, 392
Hitachi Magic Wand, 305
imsak technique, 283
kabazzah, 352–353
karezza embrace, 345
kundalini energy, 83, 107, 210
letting-go exercises, 162
literary eroticism, 178–179
“long desire,” 328
negative attitudes, 162
orgasm paintings, 56
Passion Flower position, 369
penis/vulva love, 401
pleasure barriers, 417
Red Heels kiss, 186
religion and sex, 376
sacred prostitutes, 424–425
secrets and desires, 114–115
sensual caressing, 43
sex rituals, 337
sexual animals, 409
simultaneous orgasms, 250, 258, 266
slow sex, 98
Slow Spoon position, 146
soul kissing, 35
soul triggers, 234
Spiritual BJ, 203
Stop/Start Thrusting technique, 227
synchronized breathing, 195, 204
Ten Erotic Commandments, 384
We-Vibe, 321
Yab-Yum position, 361
yin and yang energies, 297
Stockham, Alice Bunker, 345
Taormino, Tristan, 96, 271–272
toys
anal toys, 248–249
blindfolds, 97
bondage tape, 37
Booty Parlor product parties, 165
calligraphy pens, 209
Don’t Stop massage candle, 165
finger vibrators, 84, 141, 173, 229, 316
floggers, 105
Hitachi Magic Wand, 305
Honey Dust, 232
quickie kits, 229
remote-control vibrators, 403
sweetheart vibrators, 173
toy boxes, 81
vibrating cock rings, 92–93, 141
We-Vibe, 321
Unfaithful (movie), 387
Wallen, Kim, 398
Women Who Love Sex (Gina Ogden), 157